Is it ever ok to get back with an ex?
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zonavar68 · 56-60, M
No. I tried to make it work after I left my second ex, then she got panicky and claimed to still want to be friends. We tried mediation twice and it didn't work. I had to take her to court to force her to agree to parenting orders that provided a good outcome for our daughter. The DV, abuse, and bullying she directed AT me and our daughter in the first year of our daughter's life, then continuing sporadically after I left, has made me never want to get back with her regardless of how attractive physically she is and a big reason I now have so much fear of relationships, sex, etc..
Sex with her was always about her getting off and never about mutual 'love' or actually including me. I lost interest in sex in year 2 of the relationship and then when she got pregnant at about 3.5 yrs (from IVF and egg donor - not from sex with me) all romance and sex was 'withdrawn'. I kept trying, but it was a total waste of time and effort.
So for me, I find the idea of 'making up' with an ex is absolutely off the table.
Sex with her was always about her getting off and never about mutual 'love' or actually including me. I lost interest in sex in year 2 of the relationship and then when she got pregnant at about 3.5 yrs (from IVF and egg donor - not from sex with me) all romance and sex was 'withdrawn'. I kept trying, but it was a total waste of time and effort.
So for me, I find the idea of 'making up' with an ex is absolutely off the table.
