What would you do?
Your loved one passes. Do you adhere to their last wishes, in regards to their plans for after death, or do you do what you think is best for you and the living?
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
dragonfly46 · F
@hippyjoe1955 Relative wanted to be cremated and buried at sea, with traditional ceremony. No family in attendance, no ceremony. Not even her children. No explanation. Her children and family did as she asked to the letter, but are trying to cope with doing right by her but have a more challenging time with their grieving process because of lack of participation in her final wishes.
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@dragonfly46 I can understand their stress. Since she no longer has a say in the matter I think I would have ignored it. My wife's aunt had her ashes scattered at a happy place from her childhood. My wife's father was cremated then buried in a family plot. We visit his grave every year and think back with fondness of him. We can't do that with the aunt. We don't even know where her ashes were scattered.
dragonfly46 · F
@TheHammer My heart says, I am what remains, I do what is best for me too. My logical, tradition brain says only do as asked. Dying is indeed the business of living and a less emotional more logical response is appropriate. Thanks for asking.
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Lovelooking · 41-45, MNew
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Do as close to their wishes as possible. It's not always possible to exactly adhere to the wishes.
As to the rememberance thing below.
There's nothing that can stop them from being remember. You can do so anywhere and at any time.
I certain beliefs messages are burnt even and offered to the wind. Others just a candle lit.
Notice the difference between what is possible corresponds to what is possible with the wishes.
One respects the wishes. The other respects individual needs.
As to the rememberance thing below.
There's nothing that can stop them from being remember. You can do so anywhere and at any time.
I certain beliefs messages are burnt even and offered to the wind. Others just a candle lit.
Notice the difference between what is possible corresponds to what is possible with the wishes.
One respects the wishes. The other respects individual needs.
Prison1203 · 61-69, M
If they asked me (the executor) to take all their money and throw it into the ocean I would ignore that.
If they wanted their ashes dumped into the ocean OK.
If they wanted the house we shared all our lives to go to their dog, that would also be ignored. ;)
I guess it really depends what the ask is.
If they wanted their ashes dumped into the ocean OK.
If they wanted the house we shared all our lives to go to their dog, that would also be ignored. ;)
I guess it really depends what the ask is.
Neuman · M
I feel like it depends greatly. in general, yeah. but things like funeral details can be tricky; a funeral isn't really for the person who's gone, it's for the people who are left.I think henson's final requests were a bit close to the edge. they mostly made sense, but still.
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
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HumanEarth · F
Their wishes to the best as I can. Fuck what what everyone else wants
Just went though this a two months ago with a death of a family member. His wishes override his wifes planes. His wifes plans were cheaper, but not what he wanted.
So his mom, me aunt and other relatives used his will to fight his wife.
He got his final wish no matter the extra cost
Just went though this a two months ago with a death of a family member. His wishes override his wifes planes. His wifes plans were cheaper, but not what he wanted.
So his mom, me aunt and other relatives used his will to fight his wife.
He got his final wish no matter the extra cost
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F