What would you do?

I would respect their wishes

So far, I have followed their wishes. That was for my parents and my aunt.

do their wishes

I told my family to donate whatever can be used then do whatever makes them comfortable.

Can you provide with a for instance? If my dearly departed wanted me to send her ashes to Jupiter I would likely do what I thought best.

If at all possible, follow their wishes to the best of my ability.

What do you think

You adhere to their wishes.

Adhere, assuming I could afford it.

As long as it's legal, their wishes are to be followed.

It depends on what their wishes were, but I would probably end up doing both what they want and what is best for me.

Do as close to their wishes as possible. It's not always possible to exactly adhere to the wishes.

As to the rememberance thing below.
There's nothing that can stop them from being remember. You can do so anywhere and at any time.

I certain beliefs messages are burnt even and offered to the wind. Others just a candle lit.

Notice the difference between what is possible corresponds to what is possible with the wishes.

One respects the wishes. The other respects individual needs.

I adhere to their wishes they didn’t build up their lives to have their last wishes shit on by a selfish heir

If they asked me (the executor) to take all their money and throw it into the ocean I would ignore that.
If they wanted their ashes dumped into the ocean OK.
If they wanted the house we shared all our lives to go to their dog, that would also be ignored. ;)
I guess it really depends what the ask is.

depends on the plans and how apart they are and how much you respect their wishes

TBH I would wish those I left did what was best or easiest for thm.

I feel like it depends greatly. in general, yeah. but things like funeral details can be tricky; a funeral isn't really for the person who's gone, it's for the people who are left.I think henson's final requests were a bit close to the edge. they mostly made sense, but still.

Assuming the request wasn’t unaffordable, unreasonable or illegal, I’d respect their wishes.

I have tried to follow their wishes to every detail. There were a few personal touches I added to my wife’s funeral.

Adhere, since it's the last thing I can do to care for them.

Unless it was some outlandish wish (buried on top of Kilimanjaro, etc.) I'd do as they asked. Otherwise I'd have the thought of not doing what the last wishes of that loved was, following me forever.

Their wishes to the best as I can. Fuck what what everyone else wants

Just went though this a two months ago with a death of a family member. His wishes override his wifes planes. His wifes plans were cheaper, but not what he wanted.

So his mom, me aunt and other relatives used his will to fight his wife.

He got his final wish no matter the extra cost

If they want me to kill someone nope I’m not following their wishes

They're being cremated and that's final.

If their wishes were just wishes and had no real-life impact, then I will do what is best for the people they left behind, but if their wishes have a deep impact, then I will do as they asked.

Not enough information... I'm guessing you can't do both?