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This is why I absolutely love Psychology! Belief doesn’t change just because you repeat a sentence. Your brain isn’t convinced by words it’s convinced by evidence and experience.
If you’re trying to build self esteem, you don’t need to force yourself to believe something you don’t feel yet. What actually works is giving your brain small, consistent proof over time. For Example, When you follow through on something, when you handle a situation better than before, when you show kindness or become disciplined, and/or when you learn something new. These experiences slowly teach your brain oh maybe I am capable.
Affirmations can help, but only when they’re paired with real actions and real wins and/or accomplishments i should say. You don’t have to jump from I don’t feel good enough to I’m amazing. You can start with something believable like, I'm learning or I'm improving or better yet I'm trying. Belief grows from repetition with evidence not repetition alone.
If you’re trying to build self esteem, you don’t need to force yourself to believe something you don’t feel yet. What actually works is giving your brain small, consistent proof over time. For Example, When you follow through on something, when you handle a situation better than before, when you show kindness or become disciplined, and/or when you learn something new. These experiences slowly teach your brain oh maybe I am capable.
Affirmations can help, but only when they’re paired with real actions and real wins and/or accomplishments i should say. You don’t have to jump from I don’t feel good enough to I’m amazing. You can start with something believable like, I'm learning or I'm improving or better yet I'm trying. Belief grows from repetition with evidence not repetition alone.
@Souls yea I have lists for myself, i try working on myself often only for a short period of time then I either loose motivation or forget and get caught up in only thinking about daily life tasks.thank you your advice helps me I will keep an eye open for what I do despite not liking it.
@Girlyfriendcollecting It’s completely normal to start working on yourself and then fall off that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It just means your brain defaults back to survival mode when life gets busy. What actually helps is focusing on tiny actions that don’t require motivation. Motivation comes and goes, but habits stick when they’re small enough to do even on a chaotic day. And I love that you’re paying attention to the things you do even when you don’t feel like it that’s where real self esteem starts. Those little moments are proof that you’re capable, disciplined, and growing, even if it doesn’t feel dramatic in the moment.
DestroyerOfIdeologies · 26-30, M
Yes. Step into my office for hypnosis. 😵💫
GerOttman · 70-79, M
I call it a hero list. I saved a bird once, well more than once, it was a habit for a bit. Returned a couple of lost phones, wallets that kind of stuff. Nothing worth an award or peace prize, just basic stuff.
If you I think about it, you probably have a few hero moments too! Make a list, refer to it as needed..
If you I think about it, you probably have a few hero moments too! Make a list, refer to it as needed..
Lostpoet · M
You just have to keep doing it and there has to be some things that you love about yourself start with those.
Punxi · F
That thinker up there will believe anything you tell it.
It's just that simple.
It's just that simple.
dirge · M
it helps iif others tell you. and somebif you tell others
twistedrope · 26-30, M
Make good friends, work a job that allows you to do kind and try to be kind I suppose. Read good books and practice what they preach?
Musicman · 61-69, M
Saying positive affirmations multiple times a day out loud work pretty good.
I would gently suggest replacing negative thoughts NOT with positive thoughts but with facts and then realistic thoughts and then action.
Example: "I am so fat and disgusting" Replacement: I have gained weight and need to improve my health and well being. I have lost weight in the past. This is do-able and achievable. > Make a plan to emphasis better eating choices and prioritize movement.
When you take responsibility for your health, well being/happiness you re-frame your thinking and you feel powerful (less dependent on others or things to give you gratification)
I hope this makes sense 😊
Example: "I am so fat and disgusting" Replacement: I have gained weight and need to improve my health and well being. I have lost weight in the past. This is do-able and achievable. > Make a plan to emphasis better eating choices and prioritize movement.
When you take responsibility for your health, well being/happiness you re-frame your thinking and you feel powerful (less dependent on others or things to give you gratification)
I hope this makes sense 😊
CleverGirl · 26-30, F
I'd start by getting a grip on reality.