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What experiences from your childhood do you think have shaped your personality the most?
18-21, F
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I will keep it short because my family was jacked up...
But I'll say that my mom fostered kindness and authenticity. She set an example of strength and caring. She struggled though and when I lost her I was angry for years. But now a lot more makes sense because I was able to overcome what she couldn't.
I love you Mom 🖤
But I'll say that my mom fostered kindness and authenticity. She set an example of strength and caring. She struggled though and when I lost her I was angry for years. But now a lot more makes sense because I was able to overcome what she couldn't.
I love you Mom 🖤
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@MarbleMarvel aww🥺 That was so sweet. Thank you for sharing that. ^^
thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M
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iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@thepreposterouspanda That makes total sense. Going through stuff like that can make it hard to trust and connect with people. Take your time with it—you’ve been through a lot. If you ever want to talk or just vent, I’m here.
thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M
@iamrainfrog I appreciate it! It's all been going on since 2010 with the disability and I'm just so over it haha. My lower half has been toning itself since I first got sick which has meant constant cramping and tenseness from my hips to my toes. Didn't find out until a year ago that it's all coming from spinal cord damage that my doctors just neglected to tell me about. 🤦🏻
Been working on my core a lot lately though and I can finally balance on the balls of my feet again though so woo!!
Been working on my core a lot lately though and I can finally balance on the balls of my feet again though so woo!!
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@DunningKruger Do you think growing up in such tough conditions made you more independent or motivated to prove yourself?
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@iamrainfrog Was it independence or was it just withdrawing from the world as much as possible? Funny, I never cared about proving myself to anyone.
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@DunningKruger Interesting, it sounds like withdrawing might have been a coping mechanism for you. Thanks for sharing this by the way. ❤
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@Rambler It sounds like that time shaped you in a big way. Do you think those early struggles with shyness have affected how you approach new situations or relationships now?❤
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
My nextdoor best friend since infancy moving away just before kindy.
My brother's best friend drowning and our parents not letting us join the rest of the neighborhood kids/our friends and his funeral in middle school.
My mom passing when I was in my early 20s and my narcissist dad more or less abandoning immediately after leaving me to an abusive boyfriend to "support" me when I had lost everything. While it wasn't a kid, I wasn't mature enough to be on my own yet and the psychological ramifications lasted until I was into my 40s before a good therapist helped tackle it.
My brother's best friend drowning and our parents not letting us join the rest of the neighborhood kids/our friends and his funeral in middle school.
My mom passing when I was in my early 20s and my narcissist dad more or less abandoning immediately after leaving me to an abusive boyfriend to "support" me when I had lost everything. While it wasn't a kid, I wasn't mature enough to be on my own yet and the psychological ramifications lasted until I was into my 40s before a good therapist helped tackle it.
twistedrope · 26-30, M
The overwhelming sense of shame when I learned the girl i had a crush on, really like love said and I overheard "Don't tell him I only scored average." on a national exam. We were 9. I felt so horrible in that moment as I wanted to show off before and that she wanted me to not know. I didn't even know she thought about me but that was what I heard.
I have never felt pleasure from bragging or any truthfulness in it since that day. I don't brag and I don't ever use my achievements to think I'm better then another person. I'm smart. I'm really smart. And this moment of one of my lowest feelings I've ever felt, kept me grounded.
I have never felt pleasure from bragging or any truthfulness in it since that day. I don't brag and I don't ever use my achievements to think I'm better then another person. I'm smart. I'm really smart. And this moment of one of my lowest feelings I've ever felt, kept me grounded.
greensnacks · 31-35, F
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@greensnacks Do you think all these experiences made you more resilient, or could they have contributed to any underlying insecurities or anxiety?
greensnacks · 31-35, F
@iamrainfrog they gave me 80% of it, a whole lots of cptsd. I am resilient, but simply because I've been thought 💩if you ask me, I wouldn't mind the percentage to be reversed.
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
@greensnacks Sounds like you've been through a lot, and it’s impressive how resilient you are.❤
AnnabelleLeigh · F
Abuse and horror.
They made me extremely empathetic and protective of others.
And they also caused me to have a hard time trusting anyone or being happy .
They made me extremely empathetic and protective of others.
And they also caused me to have a hard time trusting anyone or being happy .
SW-User
Having my moms best friend take my virginity
SW-User
@NicoKosya i am perfectly fine. It was years ago
iamBen · M
Honestly, being abandoned by a parent at a young age.
val70 · 51-55
Good question. Been bullied my entire schooltime, I guess
The teachings from my parents.
Iwillwait · M
Abuse
Drugs
Pain
Drugs
Pain
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
The death of my mother and sister when I was five was probably the most formative to me. It led me to sort of withdraw socially. I became shy and when I did get attached to someone I attached hard and got hurt easily when they left. Which made me even more shy. Though it left me with scars and vulnerabilities I think it is also the reason I became a thoughtful, observant, and kind person.
iamrainfrog · 18-21, F
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
The experiences with my late father. He wasn't the best.