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What is cleavage etiquette??? [I Want to Be Happy And Make Others Be Happy]

I am completely lost on this subject.
When you have your breast on display am I supposed to only look when you can't catch me??
Am I supposed to get caught looking and slyly avert my eyes after a spell??
What is the breast protocol in this matter?
I must know.
plungesponge · 41-45, M Best Comment
Here is the truth: If you are goodlooking and would make for eye candy by her side, she's going to be pissed if you aren't noticeably attracted.

If you have some other social status like being wealthy or powerful, she'll also want to know she can catch your eye, though she'll toy with you more and may express disgust at attention.

If you're the other 90% of man out there, those boobs aren't on display for you. You might win her over with a lot of smooth talk or if she's desperate enough, but if she doesn't feel like you're in one of the first two categories, she's going to feel like she is selling herself short
plungesponge · 41-45, M
Hang on, let me get the manager
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Amylynne Please do us all a favor including yourself. Take $2 out of your piggy bank and run down to the dollar store and buy yourself a sense of humor. You are taking life way to seriously.
Amylynne · 26-30, F

Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M
My breast protocol is to marinate them for a couple of hours before putting them on the grill
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Spokeskitties75 In buttermilk??:-)
Amylynne · 26-30, F
@Spokeskitties75 and if they are bone in? a quick blanch to get them to temp is a good thing
We want you to think we don’t know that your looking but we think it’s funny that your thinking you’ll get in trouble. So, we don’t catch you looking because we always know your looking.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Pinkstarburst You are so right ... we are. :-)
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
@Pinkstarburst Mind games! Didn’t I just read somewhere that cleavage is to men as laser pointers are to cats?
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Harmonium1923 It's soooooooooooooooooooooo true. LOL
Lilymoon · F
Look away. 🤓
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Lilymoon Great answer. Confusing but informative. So look but don't get caught. Boob gazing ninja it is. :-)
Lilymoon · F
@Dainbramadge you got it! ;) 😄
Viper · M
@Lilymoon [quote]Look away. 🤓[/quote] No! Lol 😋
Spica · 31-35, F
Look normally as if it's any other body part. Don't stare 👀
Benjr134 · M
@SW-User I will never understand.
@Benjr134 its better for you if you don't
Benjr134 · M
@SW-User The closest I’ve had were Asian tourists wanted to take pictures with my legs. It was super weird.
Lolz. They can lie to themselves all they want, but it is on display to be seen, otherwise they would dress better
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User I know right.
I have been puzzled by this for ever. I finely decided I must know now. LOL
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Don't get caught... Simple as that!
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
@Dainbramadge we know ;)
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@ozgirl512 Ha ha ha ha!!!!! You do too. Boobs are baffling to me. :-)
helsbels · 26-30, F
@ozgirl512 Basically.
Ha, if I like the guy I enjoy it when they look.

About other people... As long as that's not the only thing they look at, it's fine. As long as they don't reduce me to that physical part, it's all good. Haha.
@Coldplay I agree most are respectful
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
@SW-User I agree.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User So if I read correctly, it's ok to be seen admiring the dish on display so long as you don't drool. Got it. :-)
I’m going to fashion a pair on men’s pants that seductively show off exactly 3/4s of my bawls..
Just so I can give women filthy looks when I catch their pervy asses looking 😇
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout I think you may be on to something. I shall, from this moment on, wear my pants unzipped. LOL
I get cleavage even in a sports bra.
Im a GG cup, I dont have cleavage om purpose for the most part.My boobs just eat my shirts
Mostly dont care if they look, but looking too long is a no no and creepy.Glance but dont stare.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User Great answer. So, According to your answer as I understand it, it's ok to notice. It's ok to be seen looking but that is where it should stop. Maybe make eye contact after one is caught looking and a quick smile??
@Dainbramadge eye contact is worse.
The more bolder you are with it the worse it gets.
Cause its like...I don't know you.I dont know if you're just being nice about it or if you're testing to see if u can get away with more than that.Testing the waters to see if I care or not so then you can try something more.And the more bold you are the more I assume you are capable of much more than that

Dont smile, glance and move on.To look at my boobs and smile when I dont know what you're capable of or what your intent is, for all I know you could follow me and rape me.And tbis is just your way of seeing if Im interested or how I react.For a lot of women strange men are something u are careful around.

The only guys who have ever looked at my cleavage and smiled were those that were testing before they do something worse.Normally guys glance and maybe maybe eye contact but avert after.They dont smile or continue in any way.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User I think I understand now. Thanks. :-)
Trippy · F
What's cleavage!? So flat chested my tube top looks like it's censoring my boobs.!!!!
@Trippy Morning beautiful ... just checked ... yep, the rules committee confirmed ... you rock!
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Trippy I personally think small breast are very attractive. You don't have to wear a bra and that is nice. :-)
Trippy · F
@questionWeaver Good morning to you, sir. And thank ya' kindly for findin' my smile this morning. ❤️
Doomflower · 36-40, M
I had a girl friend who had ENORMOUS boobs. Mine look like two fried eggs stuck go a wall. So when she would wear a tank top I would just STARE and I couldn't help it. She would make fun of me for staring and I would make fun of her for displaying her giant tiddies.

The thing was that she had such big knockers she'd have cleavage in a turtleneck. It gave her back problems.

Our friendship blew up a long time ago but I often wonder if she still has those giant boobs. Of maybe they exploded. Or maybe they got cancer. Or maybe they got reduced. I suspect she is still using them to get free drugs and be a dumb slutty girl who doesn't need to think got herself because bewbs.
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
@Doomflower PS: I’d rather look at you any day! ❤️
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Doomflower I was also going to ask if women get that way about other women's boobs.
I think the world puts way to much emphasis on LARGE breast. I, myself, am kind of a small breast fiend. LOL. I don't know what it is about B and below but they drive me nuts. :-)
Doomflower · 36-40, M
@Dainbramadge I personally waffle back and forth. I love having small boobs for a lot of reasons. I just wish they were more firm and perky. I don't need them to be big.
And on the 7th day.. god created mirrored sunglasses
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout YES he did. LOL
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Adogslife Right in the grocery store??? LOL
Coletracer · M
If a woman is purposely showing her cleavage, yes, I'm going to look and possibly smile as well. Men are drawn to such views and women know it so why be ashamed to look or be looked at.
What is on display is going to be looked at. That's something that should be understood.
But there is a way of looking and not making it creepy, I guess.
And there is a way of displaying and not making it pornographic.🤷‍♀️
Depends how voluptous someone is.

And then there is that whole under the surface stuff going on that plungesponge described.
Remember it is a trick! ... dont fall for it
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@questionWeaver Like the sweet sent the Venus fly trap gives off?? LOL
Ruya7 · 36-40, F
I think its just growing up, my personality but I tend to dress in dark colors and covered up. My goal was always to not draw attention. If someone has them pushed up and on full display, Im sorry but they would like to be noticed. 😅
@Ruya7 Yep. They [i]want[/i] them to be noticed
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Ruya7 That's what I think too. I just don't know if it's ok to be seen looking.
Imagine if you lived in a nudist camp. All around you would be people of all ages and genders in all kinds of activities. Very soon, like all nudists, you would cease to be affected by how bodies look and you'd start to pay more attention to the character of the person in the body.
This is the right etiquette for all people, irrespective of what they are wearing.

Now let's examine an opposite scenario. Let's say you're in a moderate Muslim culture where women are encouraged to dress modestly to show their devotion and surrender to Allah. The more modestly one dresses, the more modestly another must dress in order to express it relative to others and relative to the reactions of men to those few women who lag behind or choose to show more (even if they are ancient, deformed or crippled). If these keeps going, it ends up in a fundamentalist situation where women remain housebound, have no education and can go nowhere unless protected by a husband or close male relative. Woe betide the childless woman, female orphan or woman whose menfolk have died in war - for she cannot leave her home even to buy food.

The fact is men have libidos 14 times more potent than women's, and they must learn to control their urges no matter what women wear or don't wear. Otherwise we end up with a completely uncivilised society where women have few or no rights as human beings.

The feelings of lust come from inside you - not from what you see and react too. By the time you are 90, that same sight will be mildly enjoyable, like watching a flock of birds swirling in the sky. It's the hormones, not the woman's dress, that are at issue.
Whip it out and go nuts !!
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Finally some truth I can live with. LOL
If you take your phone up right to them (@)v(@) and snap a pic you might be going too far. Just a guess
Or maybe ask nicely before snapping the (o)v(o) photo….
@CookieCrumbs yes be random like hey it’s a beautiful day out and what’s your take on global warming? Oh btw can I take a pic of your fun bags? 😀
Or you can even ask: “what’s the angle most flattering to you?” 🤦‍♀️ 😂
if you don't know at your age you are hopeless, but I will try to explain:

1--read her mind
2--do and say what she wants you to do or say
3--apologize when she reacts negatively to your action or comment.
Jonjdw · 46-50, M
It’s so hard to to look. A few times I believe I’ve been caught looking. I don’t know what they thought about it.

But if one would say catch me and the she would ask if I liked and said look all you want (which will probably never) happen it would still be strange to look.

Me and my wife had a mutual friend that flashed me right in front of my wife. She wanted me to buy her a pack of cigarettes I was joking what do I get I was going to get them for her she was a good friend of the time.

My wife was right there and it somehow went to her flashing and she did it.
Just mind your own business lol - we tend to give women too much attention solely for their looks as it is
Gangstress · 41-45, F
yeh i don't get it, women do it at my work, then when a bloke ogles they start huffing, I'm like do you or do you not want the attention?

if i wore a low cut top id want the ogling, if i didn't wear a low cut up i don't.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Gangstress It would seem that way to me too. Hence the question. WTH??? LOL
It almost feels like a "Damned if you do Damned if you don't" situation.
Gangstress · 41-45, F
yeh i get that, sorry on behalf of most women! :( @Dainbramadge
SweetMae · 70-79, F
Just don't stare and drool too long!
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@Adogslife Not from strangers!! 😧
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@JohnnyNoir A smile and a wink is good too.
JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M
@SweetMae and a nod
The problem, or advantage, of being tall,is that the display from my angle isn't always intentional.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User HA ha ha ha!!!!!!!! Kind of like a trucker on the road. LOL
@Dainbramadge I hadn't thought of that, but yes 😆
Viper · M
Depends on the women and what she thinks of you, which is why it can be so tough.

Also how long and how you get caught are important factors as well.

Dolimyte · 41-45, M
I think you're supposed to tap on them to see if they are ripe, but I'm not sure what they are supposed to sound like.🤷‍♂️
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Be a gentleman and at least look at my face if you’re talking to me but I don’t have my boobs flopping out all over.
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
Boldly enjoy the view, make no pretense of not noticing.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@JoePourMan That's what I was thinking too.
Look long enough to appreciate.
But not too long that it makes the person uncomfortable.
Crazywaterspring · 61-69, M
Don't forget her eyes. They are watching you.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Crazywaterspring Ha ha ha ha!!!!!!!
Docdon23 · M
Different take. I am taking a course from a woman on relationships and sex...she says women dress up and look nice, and put themselves on display for other women...since, not to attract them, but to show you are more deserving of a man's attention than they are...or to impress women...not to attract them at all. Interesting take which I never thought of.
Yell out ‘nice tits’
Breaks the tension
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout I like it. Way easier than that glance.. don't glance crap. :-)
ahiyaa · M
you’re too old to be asking these sort of questions
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
Just keep looking till it becomes absolutely uncomfortable for the rack holder 😒
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Donotfolowme Ha ha ha ha!!!!!! Are you trying to get me maced??? LOL
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
@Dainbramadge Just tell them you are boobs blind. You go bonkers as soon as you see some popping out. It's a medical condition under investigation and then Nobody will treat you bad.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Donotfolowme I LOVE this idea. I will try it as soon as I see the next set.
royalblue1193 · 26-30, M
Tank tops are your friends
My breasts are large so I can’t hide them
My cleavage on show attracts attention
I’m well aware and enjoy it
I’m confident to know my curves are me and if I show them that’s just me being me
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@GeorgeandGina That is a great answer. One I was sure I would have gotten before this but nope.
I did get some good ones but I don't think they were as honest as this.
braveheart21 · 61-69, M
None of them as big either i bet.... Lol @Dainbramadge
Amylynne · 26-30, F
differs girl to girl
when i show it, i accept you will look that is NOT an invitation to make a move
but i feel if i show it off? men will look they HAVE too it is in the genes
Adogslife · 61-69, M
It’s all about how well you know the woman, but the chances of you looking are 100%.

The looking spectrum just goes from millisecond peek to motorboat.
If it's work... I don't make any indication of it.

Anywhere else... my face usually gives myself away that I'm distracted.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@SW-User God knows how distracting they can be. :-)
Pfuzylogic · M
That belongs in the “reckless eyeballing” street charge. If she feels the glance you take a chance on being pimp slapped.
Coldplay · 56-60, M
GREAT QUESTION. I try to not be a leering observer.
AbbySvenz · F
You missed the obvious “breast practices” 😐
JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M
Try not to drool
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@JohnnyNoir Sometimes that is a big order. LOL
Smoke em if you got em..
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout And if not ... bum 'em off your buddy??? LOL
ididntknow · 51-55, M
Breasts are great
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
We always know when you are looking. It doesn’t bother me one bit.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@iamonfire696 Sweet. I thought that was the entire object of the display was to be seen. NOW I know. Thank you. :-)
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Dainbramadge yes it is 💕
empanadas · 31-35, M
We just want boobs

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