why cant i be normal?

Take it from someone who has no contact with her abusive mom. Your life isn't about being enough for someone else, your life is for [i]you[/i] and you get to be whoever you are. If your mom can't give you that, sincerely, fuck her.

You can't be straight the same way I can't be lesbian. It's indvidual what we're sexually attracted too. It's not a choice.

You get to exist and feel pretty even if you hate sports and makeup. There's not a one personality type in us girls. We're 100000 of different girls with different interests and personalities.

Your body and skin is costume made for you. Cherish it. It's there for you. It tells you about your genes and where you come from. Give it love.

Your mom is the problem. Her not appreciating you is intentional. She is failing and you feel like it is your fault because like many moms she is probably a master manipulator playing with your innocent heart. She is not to be trusted

No. Mother doesn't always know best. And, sometimes, mother is not even your mother. There is no love sometimes




You are not depressing or a failure or any less of a person. Neither are you ugly but I fear you hear her words more than you hear mine. So take this to heart and know that we're human and humans know a bad message when they see it. You need to break free of this mental oppressiom and low self esteem and it starts by first getting past the test of blindly following your parents. You have to learn to tell yourself better and good. The messages you have been receiving have been AWFUL and WRONG

You'll be okay. You're okay. You matter. You don't need to be extraverted. People are only extraverted when they feel comfortable with who they are. Otherwise, when you're stuck battling these ill thoughts and you haven't won yet, then you'll be out in public unable to live without remembering these messages

I know the struggle and you have to learn to be big enough and to stand up on your own

There is no "normal'. It can be a great adventure finding our true selves. It can begin with [i]self[/i] acceptance - if others cannot accept you as you are then that is their problem, not yours.

Thomas Merton said:-

[i]The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.[/i]

Merton's words I think are profound. They truly speak of the [i]beginning[/i] of love. Towards ourselves and towards others. Where that path will end, who knows?

At some point, you need to become an adult and be your own person, and not be stressed out by other people’s judgement.

That’s easier said than done, but it’s necessary, and it will be up to your parents to deal with you as you are, not as they think you should be.

You might need to keep your distance from them for a while, but don’t let them control your life.

Chances are very good that things will get better for you as you get older, especially once you've moved away from home (if you are still living with your Mom). A lot of us have been through all kinds of turmoil and depression and have come out of it accepting ourselves and connecting with good people.

You don't need to be straight. You don't need to like popular stuff. You don't need to prove anything to your Mom. You don't need to look like "conventionally attractive" people. You don't need to like sports or makeup or anything else you don't happen to like. Your skin tone and hair are perfect. You are not the pathetic loser you are telling yourself you are; you are a good, strong person with so much to offer. You'll get to the point where you can see it. Patience.

We all have the ups and downs in life.

Mine is that I crossdress. I been beaten up, harassed, teased and I was even injured badly from an attack.

All just from wearing women clothing. I been wearing publicly over 20 years. I been crossdressing before crossdressing was cool.

I'm lucky enough to have a wife that understands me and accepts me for who I am and not what I wear.

Your mother sounds abusive, mean and heartless.

Your old enough to move away from her if you can afford to.

I had to move out at 18, because I wanted to live the way I wanted and couldn't do that living under my parents roof

learn to accept yourself , no one is born perfect .... takes time to get good at something

You are normal.

You'll grow into it every one goes through that phase one day you'll wake up and

22-25 M Why can't I be pretty like every single other girl? Why can't I go to parties like a normal teenager. 22-25 M You're not good at this.

[quote] im never gonna be what my mom wants me to be [/quote]


[quote] 22-25 m [/quote]

That will be a huge root of your problems.

You care about what people think of you and what society expects of you that is your problem. Stop comparing yourself to other people and focus on yourself, what you want and what you are, there is only one of you. When you move out you don't need to keep in contact with your mom if that's what you want. Think about your own beliefs and values because they're the only things that matter to you.