Have you experienced unconditional love?

I wonder often what that could ever be like or feel like. Having a sadistic, violent and mentally ill mother, I have not known any person to accept and love me, fully. I do have severe PTSD from the awful years withstanding her torture, and it's only natural one would feel inhuman and broken. I do not know how ill ever find a man to accept someone with so much trauma. Have you experienced unconditional love? Do you fear you'll never find it?

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Cigarguy · 41-45, M Best Comment

If I can find someone to love me with all the the baggage and PTSD that I have anyone can. Please don't give up hope

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy Thank you friend 🌺

greencompass · 36-40, F

One of the beautiful things about the human brain is its plasticity. I believe you can harness this ability and manage a life with both trauma and with love. It might be weird to think about but I believe we can show ourselves the love we should have been shown by our parents. I believe the term is something like 'parenting yourself'. It's something I've been trying for myself. Maybe it could be a good tool for you too?

I do have a similar fear.

Ambersky · 51-55, F

Yes I have. My husband should have left me, but he has stuck by me and even supported my parents when they were sick. The soulmate is real, it just took me a few times to find him.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I'm for the first time in my life, experiencing it. For a long time i felt that i didnt deserve it. He reminds me everyday that i deserve it and so much more. He's the breath in my lungs. I told him that if i'm his rib he's definitely my skeleton.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

From my children yes. From my romantic partners no, but then again I don't know how to trust women enough to give them unconditional love in an adult relationship sense. At least not anymore.

I tend to shy away from any inkling of romantic connection and I have neither the time or the money to 'invest' in that kind of activity.

ScarletWitch · 31-35, F

I have. Its beautiful.

Softy1 · M

The person I wanted to have unconditional love for me didn’t

greencompass · 36-40, F

@Softy1 same. We can't make them love us if they don't🫤

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@Softy1 I think we all go into relationships thinking love will be mutually unconditional, but it rarely is (at least in my experience) in an adult romantic/sexual relationship sense.

BTW I've never been married or wanted to get married. I don't link/equate marriage to 'unconditional love'.

SinlessOnslaught · M

Hugs

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

Am so sad for you

What a horrible life you have gad

You deserve so much better than that

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