How do you know someone still loves his/her ex?

That’s hurtful and to keep doing it when he knows. No respect there for you.

You should think carefully about your future together. 🚩

Contacting his ex doesn't mean he still loves her, but it does mean he doesn't respect you, your wishes, and how it makes you feel.

Not a good sign for how your relationship will turn out, and it needs to be solved, or I'd submit you need to walk.

I think my bf still loves his baby mama. He talks to her so kindly and is willing to bend over backwards for her, but doesn't extend that same courtesy to me.

The fact that they're still in contact. If he did not care about her, she'd be another number he'd delete or just doesn't interact with. I got numbers in my phone I haven't called or texted in nearly a decade

Obviously he has some ideation of incentive to text her. He needs to completely let her go if things were not healthy or if they were problematic

sounds like he's poking both of you maybe...you need cut him off

Jealousy is one of the quickest ways to end a relationship.
Trust that you are more attractive and lovable (than her).

They would not have broken up unless there was something seriously wrong in their dynamics.
Remaining friends with ex's is no big deal unless the ex is some kind of psychopath, addict or criminal.

It's not hard to tell no matter how much they try to hide it you can see it if you look closely, I know from experience even though I've been married for many years I still think about my past girlfriend.

Can I ask why it hurts you? Is his contact flirty? It's possible he just wants to remain friends with her as they did share some intimacies together.

Looks like he is not respecting you.. not respecting your time and efforts in this relationship..
not sure if you need to continue the relationship? also, are you pregnant with his child by any chance?

That is pretty ratty on his part. I would just move on, because if you keep it up it would be more than just heartbreak that you will deal with. It has happened to me and it took a long while before I got over it

I think he still cares about her.
He needs to cut the apron strings and focus on your relationship. He can't have it both ways. Its cruel in my opinion. Id dump him asap if I were in your shoes. Don't settle for second place!!!

People get into relationships for some reasons. It looks like his was just to have some company. If the relationship is convenient for you, stay. At least you know what to expect.

Then be both intelligent and wise also and get out of the situation

I'm sorry it hurts, but if someone is willing to do things they know hurt you, they're toxic for you

Why would someone talk to his/her ex after being in a relationship with someone else??

I mean there’s no point. There’s nothting like friendship between exes.

Whether or not he loves her, it's in bad taste to do something like that which hurts you as his current girlfriend.

Can feel u. I hVe been there , realised it's not worth, came out of it weak n may be vulnerable too , but recovered strong, made myself stronger. U can do it too . No matter what we think about heart, feelings , emotions, human body is made to adapt n survive if any individual wants to. We need to prioritise what we need n what we don't. N then move on when something is not worth keeping. Emotions r not connected heart , it's technically connected to brain. N brain can be trained always if we put all our will power together.

Don't be too surprised if he's still banging her especially if they have kids together.

Time for you to leave and move on.
If there is no respect, nothing else matters

That is some sound advice from Fairydust . A definite red flag.

Sounds like disrespectful of your needs. That's not a good sign.

Time to move on, definitely

I think you should let him go

you don't deserve that queen <3 wishing you peace and love in solving this

He clearly doesnt respect you.

Kick him out.

Time to move on

he does not truly care for you

He better have a damn good excuse for something like that. If it isn't for something necessary, like she's the mother of his kids sort of thing, he shouldn't be your bf

I’m sorry to hear that