Why do some people LOVE being alone ?

There's also that just maybe they don't need constant companionship to be happy

Because givers rarely seem to be drawn to other givers. Givers need users and users need givers. After a while, a giver says "who needs it?"

Yes. so TRUE. Sometimes I feel like I've become a hermit in a way. I rarely go out socially (mostly it was due to Covid, but now, I just really have lost touch w/friends anyway). And occasionally I get sad b/c I see all these people on FB having fun with friends still (like I used to), and going on vacay etc. But all in all, I feel SAFER at home, and at Peace, like you said. No one is judging me, and I don't have to keep pleasing others if I'm reading at home. Now I know we don't HAV Eto please others, but having trauma for so long, you become a people pleaser, thinking YOU NEED to, in order to have worth. Or for someone to like you. That you constantly need to make sure others are happy, over yourself even. It is EXHAUSTing, when you do that for years on end. I am fine now not going out, and even though I do miss old friends, they turned out to not keep in touch w/ME either... so am I truly missing out? probably not.

And yet solitary confinement is just about the worst punishment given to a prisoner

I love you wrote about this. And I still love your oogie boogies in writing. I sometimes wonder if the longer answer becomes, when you have established these things, mental, emotional, psychological, financial and the physical, if you are with a friend if they can take within their entire canvas of life of all the things too, mental, emotional, ...... including you

Maybe why it's easier to not "people" at times. They can't even handle themselves

Some people do really help me remember who I am. That's coming from someone often a lonewolf, or bird.

My personal experience, I just need to unplug from people for a couple of days per month. Get away, hike in nature.

Absolutely nothing wrong in it.


Being alone allows freedom of not having to think twice , less stressful , less emotional decisions your way. It gives you control over your time, energy , thoughts and feelings.

Peace and quiet..

The reality is...we are alone. If you work yet you may feel like you are part of something but the moment you retire....poof!! They are gone.

I feel most comfortable on the road now. Maybe I should just drive a truck.

When you identify yourself very well, you feel comfortable in your own company. Then it feels it is required to follow the drama some people are living and play. Although some people are worth interacting, but that is not the hard requirement when you can feel happy being with you.


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Mmhm! ❣️ Well explained.

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Being alone > Being with the wrong people.

I love it because I don't have to adapt to anyone and can freely do my own thing. It als means I don't have to talk, which I don't like very much most of the time. I like peace and quiet. I also just enjoy my own company.

This doesn't mean I don't like people or social situations. I do. But in moderation.

I am also an extreme introvert so yes, social interactions also wear me out.

I like alone as it's peaceful. I get more done. I think better. I cook better I'm happier. If I want company all I got to do is open my door and others know they are welcome😊

being single is a necessity b/c i travel frequently and i'm a workaholic (ya i'm a terrible bf)