Why do some people LOVE being alone ?

Short answer:
-because its better than peopling.

Long answer: Because they suffering exhaustion on so many levels - mental, emotional, psychological, financial, and physical...they are run dry.
The cup is empty
Exhaustion so deep its like 'soul fatigue'.

Being alone means comfort, wholeness, a sense of contol over what stimulus you get.
- Peace -

People ask "dont you get bored?"

No. Never. And even if we did ..... we'd translate it into a sense of tranquility.

Once youve been wrung out by someone, lived on high alert that even sleep is invaded, for so long youve almost forgotten who you are ...there is no such thing as boredom or loneliness anyore .

Both are welcome relief.
Both are safe

Its a comparative thing - its better than fear, angst, anger or saddness.

"Boredom and loneliness" become states that free one up for space in your head, quiet reflection, tranquil enjoyment, peacefullness.

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Baybreeze · 41-45, F

Yes. so TRUE. Sometimes I feel like I've become a hermit in a way. I rarely go out socially (mostly it was due to Covid, but now, I just really have lost touch w/friends anyway). And occasionally I get sad b/c I see all these people on FB having fun with friends still (like I used to), and going on vacay etc. But all in all, I feel SAFER at home, and at Peace, like you said. No one is judging me, and I don't have to keep pleasing others if I'm reading at home. Now I know we don't HAV Eto please others, but having trauma for so long, you become a people pleaser, thinking YOU NEED to, in order to have worth. Or for someone to like you. That you constantly need to make sure others are happy, over yourself even. It is EXHAUSTing, when you do that for years on end. I am fine now not going out, and even though I do miss old friends, they turned out to not keep in touch w/ME either... so am I truly missing out? probably not.

OogieBoogie · F

@Baybreeze oh look, even if you move on from being a people pleaser - youre still tuned to others emotions and energy.

I still find being out....even if its a good time, as exhausting.

My cup still hasn't filled up. Even good times can run it low.
Which sounds odd i know - but i just don't have the reserves of emotional energy that i once had.

Peace is my most prevalent desire rite now, above and beyond all other desires.