Better listen to these people. I'm telling you right now that if you don't get yourself together to think healthily, you will lose your boyfriend. You'll push him away in no time. Especially constantly questioning how much does he love you. Don't do that. You'll lose him for sure. Try to accept and be thankful that you have a boyfriend and that he does love you. Some ladies don't and they would love to have a boyfriend. He shouldn't have to prove his love for you, in order to make you feel secure. You're constant questioning him will get real old with him and he'll get tired of it and leave, if you don't stop it. Then you'll be asking yourself what happened and that's why.
Without knowing it, you may have some type of chemical imbalance from diet which can cause deep depression and feelings of insecurity. This would definitely drive him away if you don't stop thinking negatively and I don't say that to be mean. You can help yourself. You can get counseling and you can also look at free self-help videos on YouTube but you really need to address this. You must learn to accept that your boyfriend is with you because he wants to be with you. Otherwise he would be gone but with your constant self judgment, trust me, he's not going to be around for long. I don't know any man that would. You have insecurities that you really must address so you can be happy in life. You will lose him and then you'll wonder why, and that's why. So get the help you need please. Love and respect yourself enough to know that you're enough, no matter who you would be with. They're not with you because you force them. But if you keep doubting their love and being down on yourself, they'll be gone in a flash, guaranteed. No matter who you're with, if they're not treating you as if you're enough, then you don't need them! Please watch some self-help videos on YouTube and talk to a counselor. I feel your insecurity might stem from your childhood or something but ask yourself what's lacking in your life and then fix it. There are tons of self-help books out there and I have used them and they work great! You must stop thinking of the worst and break this cycle of negative thinking. If you don't, it will definitely ruin your health both physically and emotionally and who wants to live like that? If your negativity continues to be a constant problem for your boyfriend, he's going to get sick of that real quick and he'll be gone in no time, so do yourself a favor and love yourself enough to work on this and get help. You'll be very glad you did. Don't run him off because of your insecurities. I'm rooting for you, but if it's going to happen, you're going to have to be the one to make it happen. No one will do this for you. You can do this!
Without knowing it, you may have some type of chemical imbalance from diet which can cause deep depression and feelings of insecurity. This would definitely drive him away if you don't stop thinking negatively and I don't say that to be mean. You can help yourself. You can get counseling and you can also look at free self-help videos on YouTube but you really need to address this. You must learn to accept that your boyfriend is with you because he wants to be with you. Otherwise he would be gone but with your constant self judgment, trust me, he's not going to be around for long. I don't know any man that would. You have insecurities that you really must address so you can be happy in life. You will lose him and then you'll wonder why, and that's why. So get the help you need please. Love and respect yourself enough to know that you're enough, no matter who you would be with. They're not with you because you force them. But if you keep doubting their love and being down on yourself, they'll be gone in a flash, guaranteed. No matter who you're with, if they're not treating you as if you're enough, then you don't need them! Please watch some self-help videos on YouTube and talk to a counselor. I feel your insecurity might stem from your childhood or something but ask yourself what's lacking in your life and then fix it. There are tons of self-help books out there and I have used them and they work great! You must stop thinking of the worst and break this cycle of negative thinking. If you don't, it will definitely ruin your health both physically and emotionally and who wants to live like that? If your negativity continues to be a constant problem for your boyfriend, he's going to get sick of that real quick and he'll be gone in no time, so do yourself a favor and love yourself enough to work on this and get help. You'll be very glad you did. Don't run him off because of your insecurities. I'm rooting for you, but if it's going to happen, you're going to have to be the one to make it happen. No one will do this for you. You can do this!
Kuronekko · 41-45, F
My ex was always paranoid that he wasn't good enough for me. I loved him and that was enough for me. But his insecurities led to him accusing me of cheating, constantly asking if i was talking to other guys, asking me if he was attractive all the time, despite the fact he did nothing to keep himself fit or healthy. He drank because it made him depressed and that caused so many problems in our relationship. In the end he had made himself into someone that i didn't want to be with just because of his poor self worth. Its a self fulfilling prophecy. So be careful with this, its not fun to be around and may end up pushing him away.
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Kuronekko · 41-45, F
@SomeMichGuy I didn't want to be the one to teach that lesson to anyone.
SomeMichGuy · M
@Kuronekko True. 🥺
Justbekind24 · 26-30, F
Thank you all for your kind words. I just get in my head about everything. I know I am worth of love and that he loves me.
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Justbekind24 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy excuse I can’t seem to do that. I just have a hard time with believing that he feels strongly about me. I know he loves me but at the same time I don’t know how much. Because my brain doesn’t want me to be happy.
SomeMichGuy · M
@Justbekind24 Your negative self-talk is programming your own mind to be more and more negative.
How about just starting with what I pointed out:
"<name> is MY boyfriend."
"<name> chose ME to be his."
How about just starting with what I pointed out:
"<name> is MY boyfriend."
"<name> chose ME to be his."
Elisbch · M
@Justbekind24
Please consider this.
All Your negativity about yourself will influence your relationship with your boyfriend eventually. He will not have any answers that will be beneficial for you. He cannot make you happy. You have to make you happy. The only way you're going to be able to do that is change the negative berating you're giving yourself. This stress and negativity that you're wearing radiates outward and is going to become more and more difficult for your boyfriend to contend with. You have the power to change this. The suggestions @SomeMichGuy just told you, are very good small baby steps that could help you and possibly save your relationship from slow deterioration. It may not be in trouble now but it will be. No guy wants to have to try to figure out how to keep you happy and build up your self esteem for very long when they have no answers to that. You're going to have to help yourself. You can do it and you'll be happier for it and no doubt your boyfriend will to.
If need be, get some counseling that will help you.
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Please consider this.
All Your negativity about yourself will influence your relationship with your boyfriend eventually. He will not have any answers that will be beneficial for you. He cannot make you happy. You have to make you happy. The only way you're going to be able to do that is change the negative berating you're giving yourself. This stress and negativity that you're wearing radiates outward and is going to become more and more difficult for your boyfriend to contend with. You have the power to change this. The suggestions @SomeMichGuy just told you, are very good small baby steps that could help you and possibly save your relationship from slow deterioration. It may not be in trouble now but it will be. No guy wants to have to try to figure out how to keep you happy and build up your self esteem for very long when they have no answers to that. You're going to have to help yourself. You can do it and you'll be happier for it and no doubt your boyfriend will to.
If need be, get some counseling that will help you.
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calicuz · 56-60, M
You just need to work on your self-esteem.
SomeMichGuy · M
@calicuz 😊😊😊
justbob · 61-69, M
All women are beautiful including you. Please do not sell yourself short.
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YoMomma ·
Why would you think that? Not everything is about looks..
Justbekind24 · 26-30, F
@YoMomma I know it’s not but my brain just gets so focused and it’s hard to control. I hate that I think about it so much.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
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YoMomma ·
@Justbekind24 sorry i used to be that way about my crush (thinking he's like other women).. i was never with my crush tho he never liked me.. did your bf ever give you any reason to think he thought less of you and desired other "more attractive" women? Not everyone is attracted to the same things.. people have different views of what is and isn't attractive to them you know? You may not fancy yourself as you are but maybe he does? Idk but he is with you so unless he is giving you reasons to think he doesn't really want or like you .. you shouldn't worry about it unnecessarily and give yourself useless grief? 😳
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FeralMindset · M
Oh I bet you are a lot prettier than what you think.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Therapy is covered by your healthcare.
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
wanna nice butt?
put the joggers on and get galloping..
put the joggers on and get galloping..
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout galloping? What is she a horse?
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
@Moneyonmymind giddy up!
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
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