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Nostalgia, yes or no. Thoughts?

Do you think nostalgic thoughts are good or bad for the soul? I'm 62 years old therefor, I grew up in a much simpler time. I often miss that part of growing up. No internet, smart phone, etc., etc. But then again, times in the 1970s was downright volatile, at least in my world and surroundings. I'm wondering how others regard this topic.
Carissimi · F Best Comment
I think of nostalgia as positive thoughts, but with a shadow of longing for what was, which can make one a little sad, so bitter-sweet, in one context, and a warm glow of memory in another.

DunningKruger · 61-69, M
I don't think there's anything wrong with nostalgia per se. I think the problem comes when nostalgia pushes out appreciation of the present, even to the point of preventing new ideas and new trends to take root.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@DunningKruger Very well said!
Zaphod42 · 51-55, M
I do think back on the 70s and 80s with a certain fondness. However, being able with watch whatever I want on my iPad while sitting on a smoke free plane ride next to my black/Asian girlfriend with exactly zero harassment over it is also nice 😉
Mikla · 61-69, F
@Zaphod42 You have THE best posts!
Zaphod42 · 51-55, M
@Mikla Awww shucks, thank ya kindly, m’am 🙂
Mikla · 61-69, F
@Zaphod42 One of the (few) good ones I will actually read and respond to. No thanks needed! :)
Adogslife · 61-69, M
At 63, I do think nostalgically. Times were simpler and there was a greater connection between people. There seemed to be less anger and frustration. There wasn’t the absurdity of “cancel culture”. The focus was certainly on betterment, but it had the greater good in mind.

Now, life is much more about individual entitlement. People of all ages are literally glued to their phones. In many instances, young adults have started to lose conversational ability. Text has replaced the call. It is efficient, but the nuance is lost. The same holds true with an email. It can never beat an actual voice on the telephone.

Also, with things like friend finders and snap maps, you always know where your friends are (now). That’s not necessarily good. What if you aren’t included? You know now. You didn’t then. That can be rough on teens.

On the bright side, everyone has gained by the ease of access to information. That’s huge. Personally, age discrimination has lessened. That’s great for me. It’s nice to be considered vibrant and have the ability to attack life. When I was a teen, someone that was 63 would be looked at in wonderment, ‘You’re still alive?’ Damn. 😂

Despite what the news wants to convey, racial and cultural acceptance are dramatically better. People just interact. Cultural avoidance, for the most part, is gone. Granted the world isn’t perfect, but the chasm of the 60’s and 70’s has long since passed- mostly thanks to the efforts of our children!

And finally, “News”. Forget about the speed of access. That’s a benefit to all. It’s the content. When I grew up the news wasn’t politicized. Walter Cronkite (and others) told you what was going on. You could trust it as the truth. Now, there’s literally no such thing as “news”. The commentary is politically motivated, pseudo-factual, editorial. Nobody watches “A” channel. They watch the channel that feeds them the political news they’re comfortably hearing. That’s a massive kick in the nuts for national unity.
JSul3 · 70-79
@Adogslife "Life is all right in America, if you're all white in America." (West Side Story)

I point this out, being a 71 year old white guy.

Folks who look like me have always had advantages over those with a different skin pigmentation. That is just a fact, and it continues today.

Pat Buchanon once said: "America was built by white men, for white men."

I despise Buchanon, but what he said is true. History, if you stick to the truth, proves it.

It is easy to be nostalgic about the past, if you are a white person...if you are not white, there are plenty of reasons not to be.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@JSul3 Where are you from? Do you work in a metropolitan area?

Sour grapes aside, there’s a world of difference in white collar employment opportunity, college acceptance, inter-racial relationships, just to name a few.

At a less significant level, what about the sports and music industries? The minority participants there deservingly dominate the upper pay scales unimaginable to even the best of their white counterparts from decades ago.

As a society we do a great job at pointing out the shortcomings of the past. If we spent just a fraction of the time pointing out the success stories and TEACHING the elements of success, the world would be a better place.

Maybe it’s different where you are. I work on the outskirts of Boston. My three top managers: African American, Iranian/Muslim and Irish/white. Below that level, the top five performers: Mexican American, Irish/white, Brazilian American, Haitian American and an Asian American.

The chances of that level of success in 1960-1970? Zero. Absolutely zero.
JSul3 · 70-79
@Adogslife I am retired in Texas.
If you will take the time to read my comment, it refers to 'nostalgia' and I accurately point out that things were not so great for those of color.
Hurrah that you are surrounded by a group of diverse associates! Bravo! Boston is well known for its racism....we have plenty of it in Texas.
Have some things improved? Yes. Are 'we' all truly 'equal...free...liberty and justice for all?' Hell no! Not even close.
Don't agree? Ok. Fine.

I don't see opportunities unless you are rich. I don't see affordable housing.

I do see police brutality. I see unarmed black citizens being shot, many times in the back!
I see one political party that is damned and determined to destroy public education and to do everything possible to limit free access to the ballot box, especially for minorities. That would be The Party of Trump, formerly known as the GOP.

'Cancel culture?' Who is closing librairies and banning books?

You have freedom of speech, but as my wise history teacher told us: "You are free to say whatever you wish, but there may be consequences for what you say. With freedoms, there are duties and responsibilities."
Ontheroad · M
Hmmm, maybe both? I remember the good times and those thoughts are comforting, but the bad times are, or can be, hurtful. They are also the parts of my life that taught me much about life, people and myself.

So yeah, maybe it's, in a way, all good.
Ontheroad · M
@Mikla I do think we tend to glorify them, but I think it's mostly because we block out the bad aspects of the good old days.

Too, if we are going through a rough patch, it's easy to recall the old days when life was simple and our cares few. It somehow provides us with a little comfort, and that's not a bad thing.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@Ontheroad I love your post!
Ontheroad · M
@Mikla Thanks a nice thing to say, thank you. I was thinking the same thing about your questions. 😊
exexec · 61-69, C
I like to remember the good times in the past, but times were awful for the minorities in my town. I don't like to remember that I may have been a part of the problem.
exexec · 61-69, C
@Mikla Unfortunately, it was a racist community and I am happy to be away from it.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@exexec Then, I am happy for you! :)
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@exexec I went to school on the south on the mide 1960s. I have to admit, i just have had blinders on. Looking back, there were so many cues, but, I failed to notice them.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
I am nostalgic for the music and art that I loved. I am frightened as all hell, about the future of the US.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Mikla i know things go in cycles, and i do have faith in the long run, that democracy can prevail. At my age, I am just concerned i will not live long enough to see the pendulum swings my back.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@samueltyler2 I feel the same at my age as I just can't see it happening in my lifetime. I'm hoping and praying things change in my 33-year-old son's lifetime.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Mikla how can we have become so bigoted, angry, with such hate, science denial, etc? Where ya at all the empathy, striving for equal rights gone?
JSul3 · 70-79
"Life is alright in America, if you're all white in America." (West Side Story)

Not much has changed.
Northwest · M
I don't know about much simpler times. I am from that generation, and if I wanted to communicate with "remote" people, it was far more complicated: letters, phone calls (when you're available), taking photos and then developing them, video was not really available, etc.

The reason we have all these extra features today, is because these are the things we wish we had back then.
supersnipe · 61-69, M
I didn't like the 1970s either (I am 66) but today is more dangerous, with populism, global warming and social media to name but a few. And I have a growing impression that we are here to serve technology rather than the other way around. I'm not nostalgic for my youth but I don't like the modern world much either (Logs out of SW).
SW-User
Good 🙌
Social cognition. Nostalgia can encourage you to solve interpersonal issues, reconnect with old friends, and prioritize the important relationships in your life. Overall, nostalgia serves to strengthen feelings of social connectedness that are vital to the human experience.😀
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
Nostalgia is looking back at the past with fondness. There are many good memories that you can remember from growing up like playing outside with friends till dark. But alas, the past is the past, we live in the present and must be accepting of the realities that are happening now.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Oh i don't doubt we were all much happier not knowing then what we do today.
There's a sort of innocence in that.

That's something this age of technology has shoved down our throats ! A loss of innocence..
I don't envy youngsters today.
Here's what you should think. Here's what you should do. If you don't agree with this then you're not normal !
etc.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@Picklebobble2 Excellent.
JustNik · 51-55, F
I like the balance of nostalgia. It feels like deeper waters where the thoughts can flow a little slower under the weight of all that time. There’s joy but the loss of it, gratitude it was there at all, perspective, reassurance of resilience. Some aches have a sweet nature.
RuyLopez · 56-60, M
Nostalgia can be a good thing. It does remind us what was good/better about the past, usually. Something that might be good for the present or the future if seriously considered.
In moderation, yes, it is good. As long as one doesnt become obsessed with the way things used to be and gets mentally stuck back in the past.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@YourMomsSecretCrush Yes, absolutely. I was going to add that to my post, not sure why I didn't, lol.
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
It's good, as long as you don't expect things to be like that again.
SW-User
Before 2000 was like that
HannahSky · F
Just don't get stuck in it
SubstantialKick · 36-40, M
I grew up in the 1990s-2000s which were much simpler times compared to today. I can't help but get nostalgic for those times, even if my childhood from ages 13-17 wasn't great.
As a sentimental, it has its positives and negatives. As long as we don't revisit old memories too often; wanting what was or becoming hostage to it.
BeJeweled · F
I don't like thinking about the past. It sucked. I actually wish I would have been born in another era but enjoy some of the perks we have today.
smiler2012 · 61-69
{@mikla] 🤔sorry if you are sixty two then how come you are still in the 56-60 age group 🤷‍♂️ just asking
Mikla · 61-69, F
@smiler2012 I guess I never changed it. Thanks for pointing it out! Oops...
looping · 18-21
i hate nostalgia personally. it's a consent reminder that life will never be the same and it haunts me all the time
NotAfraidofAnything · 26-30, M
For me it's hard to separate nostalgia from something I wish to have again.
Mikla · 61-69, F
@NotAfraidofAnything That must be a tough way to live, my friend.
smiler2012 · 61-69
@Mikla yes you absolutely right technology has come on leaps and bounds
ArtieKat · M
Nostalgia's ok - but it's not what it used to be!
Tres13 · 51-55, M
Even The Good Times Are Bad
Carissimi · F
Thank you for BC. 🙏
I would say it can be bitter/sweet. But we are all nostalgic and sentimental, not always sure it's a good thing but we can't help it somehow.
I was a small child in the 70's, born less than a week before Kent State, I have a lot of fond memories of that era.

 
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