Were you unsure of your loved ones' after death wishes?

I knew what my husband wanted, we talked a lot about everything. He believed as I do that the body is just a vehicle which we have use of for a while. Even though his death was a huge shock and totally unexpected, I knew that he wanted to be able to help as many people as possible with organ donation and then be cremated so it was important that I honored that. Unfortunately, his organs were shutting down and nothing was viable apart from his cornea but I found it a comfort that he was able to give those, my husband was very artistic and he saw beauty in everything.

My condolences to you. You do not need to apologize.
May your father rest in peace or better said, his spirit be at peace.
If I may say, if your dad is cremated or buried, it’s his relationship with you and those times he smiled at/ with you. The times when he gave you support, comfort and guidance; and take those moments as building blocks to assuage your mourning.

And you are not alone. Many of us have been where you are. We understand.
Be well.

You can do cremation and still bury the ashes with a headstone. That's what I did with my aunt, per her request. My wife and I have specified the same thing.

You can still inter his ashes. My in-laws wanted to be cremated so we followed their wishes. Then we buried their ashes beside her parents graves and put up a grave marker as well. Very common these days.

I know my mom said she wanted to be cremated, like she did with my father, and no funeral. When it comes to me, Id want the same. I dont want anyone acknowledging me (Maybe only my SW Family) Other than that.. I want to leave the world as I came. Quietly