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Death and denial

It always seems unexpected somehow. Even when you really DO know it's coming.
I knew when I took my dog to the vets, the chances of getting to bring him back were almost zero. He was very old and very ill.
That's why I took him to the vets after all.
It still seemed so abrupt, so sudden, and driving home without him felt wrong.
For days afterwords, I got these sensations out of nowhere like I'd forgotten him somewhere. Id feel panic, as though I needed to go pick him up and 'save him', protect him.
A second later Id come to my senses.
I didnt expect losing a dog to hurt this much.
Now I look at my other dog, a fourteen year old GSD, and I KNOW its coming. And I don't think I can handle it.
I'm so sorry. My heart really goes out to you and your pet. It's never easy to do. What you're feeling is normal. They are family. I'm glad to see that you were a responsible pet owner and what you did, shows your great love for him. It was definitely not easy for you I'm sure. It just breaks our heart and people can call me crazy, but I believe we'll see our pets again in heaven. I truly do. God loves animals too and the Bible says that the lion shall lay down with the lamb in heaven and won't be harmed because there's no sin in heaven. I wish everyone loved their pet as much as you do. I pray that God will heal your heart and give you peace that passes all understanding. I pray that God will give you strength for anything you face. 🌹 Hugs
I'm certain you did [i]the[/i] most loving thing for him.
It will take time, feeling that sadness and loss. No easy thing -- a dog is such a wonderful friend and companion - an irreplaceable individual.

These days, I have the vet come to our place when euthanasia is the only option.
It means they die in their familiar environment with less stress.
It costs more, but it's well worth going without a few basics for a while.
We buried our cat just outside the front door, with a rose and herbs planted over her grave.
I buried my favourite mare in the orchard, with a mulberry tree over her and a memorial photo with the story of her life sealed in glass. She was the mother of four beautiful foals and we shared many many miles of riding the bush together. She was so sweet natured and easy to train, as were her fillies and colts. One of them is now my main riding horse - with such a deep bond.

I hope things go well for your remaining dog.
It's such a sad thing, but it's also one of the noblest proofs of real love when one cares more for their well-being versus suffering more than our own feelings - which, after all, we will eventually recover from.

I wish you well, and respect and honour your choices.
Vengabus · 36-40
@hartfire that sounds like a lovely memorial for your mare. a very good idea to have the story of her life sealed in glass. I love that.
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
It's never easy. We had to put down our last two cats, due to age and various ailments. I must say, as the vet began administering the anesthetics and lethal injection, each looked up at us with an expression that seemed to say "thank you for putting me out of my misery" which helped a lot.

Recently the much younger replacement cat managed to have a huge portion of his pelt ripped aside. Took him to the ER vet expecting a repeat, which would have been much harder given he was still young. But they saved him, although it took a couple months of recovery. While he hated the rides to the ER, the surgeries, and the pill taking, he seemed very appreciative of the effort and result. We do what we can, and imho they know and appreciate which ever direction it goes.
Vengabus · 36-40
I’m glad the vets managed to save your young kitty. What an awful thing to happen to the poor thing ❤️@dancingtongue
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
@Vengabus Well, he was well past kitten but still a young adult. Traumatic experience for all of us, although fortunately it looked more gory and serious than it actually was as the wound was not that deep, but a bleeder.
melissa001 · 51-55, F
14 yrs later and I still have dreams I left my cat Tweety somewhere or I've forgotten to get him or feed him. I miss him so much.
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
I'm told that there are 5 stages of grief.

Denial, being the first, next comes bargaining, then anger, then depression and finally acceptance.

Some go through all five sequentially, while some, once they've passed the denial stage, keep going back and forth between anger, bargaining and depression before finally reaching acceptance.
melissa001 · 51-55, F
It never gets easy. But I happy for all my memories of them. I make sure I am with them when the time comes. I want to be the last thing they see. So they know I love them.
I hope eventually you will get to a point when it doesn't hurt so much. I'm very sorry for your loss.❤️
teachmetiger210503 · 36-40, M
I had a dog back in my Village he means a lot to me and we had adventures together . when I he died I let go a part of me with him and I had a sense of freedom ever since.
Vengabus · 36-40
@teachmetiger210503 thanks that actually does help a lot, I didn’t think of it that way
Disgustedman · 61-69, M
That's the thing I'm scared about and I would love to get a dog or a cat but I wouldn't want to get a puppy or kitten because if I croak out who's going to take care of my baby?
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
It’s a very difficult thing to go through, there is such a void when they are gone. I’m sorry for your loss ❤️
Vengabus · 36-40

 
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