Is it normal or weird? Since my moms passing over 2 weeks ago that’s all I have been posting...

2brandon2 · 18-21, M

Being angry is a normal part of the grieving process. There are normal stages of grief but what the books don’t tell you is if they don’t fall in order they come and they go they come in different stages different times one minute one minute feeling angry the next minute feeling sad trying to point blame believe me I’ve been through it, there is a book by Dr. Kübler Ross on death and dying a very good book. I lost my mom when I was nine she was murdered to this day. I go through the stages but I tend to focus more on the positive that she gave me while she was with me , I recommend this book because it really helped me out a lot. I have decided not to get locked up in an anger because anger built into hatred and it’ll envelope your body and take over your life. It’s fine initially when you’re first going through it but at some point, celebrate your mothers life, and what she did for you aside from your siblings . Sincerely, Brandon.

Baconrind · 36-40, M

It might have been her time but it is never the right time to lose someone. It sucks and it hurts and people will flood you with bs like everything happens for a reason but the truth is that sometimes there isn't a reason or a lesson. Nothing is normal about grief. I was standing over my dads grave on Sunday evening just thinking how weird it is that people think standing over a rotting corpse helps them.

You can be angry. You can break things. You can scream until you lose your voice. Don't let anyone feel like you can't be yourself or grieve in your way. Just make sure you understand the difference between guilt and shame. It is okay to feel guilty about something because you are focusing on the action, but when you feel shame, you focus on the person. Do not shame yourself. Could have you done better? Sure. Does that make you lesser? No. Not at all. We are at our best on any given moment. So let it out; don't hold it in to yourself

in10RjFox · M

Everything happens for a reason. Feel blessed that she passed away and not suffer further and that she suffered for a reason and that she was let to go also for a reason.

Take it that she went through all the suffering for you so you can live her life the way she would have wanted or the way she deserved. Think of your life as hers and just go live it out.

You would agree that she definitely not want your life to be like this. So get on to the future and not dwell in the past.

Death happens for a reason. And just let go of her and thoughts of her.. and start to live your life for she has incarnated through you.

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

Sorry for your loss. We all grieve in our own way...this may be your way. My dad passed in 2020 after suffering TIA's in 2016. He was never my dad again after the TIA's so in my mind he died then. Was I feeling like you...yes but... we all are born to die at some point. My pastor helped by telling me that " none of us will die until God has our room ready and the door is open." So for 4 yrs my dad suffered....then God had his room ready.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

Everyone grieves in their own way ,so yes you are normal. It's sad that you lost your mum .

Life is mostly about learning lessons so is fair. As you get on with your life -
The things you wished you did for your mum & the experiences you wished she had known, try doing them with others & experiencing them for yourself .

This way your memories will be her legacy 💞

Take care & be good to yourself 💟

Ynotisay · M

It's easy to look back and see things that we wish we'd done differently. Especially when grieving. But I might try to take the clear love you had for your Mom and use that as a guide moving forward. And you can do that by trying to live a life that would make her proud. Good luck and I'm sorry for you loss.

DarlingSelah ·

Thats normal. Grieving is so hard.

smiler2012 · 56-60

{@janecas] i am sorry for the loss of your mum the way you are acting could be all grief related you are so worked up over your mums demise . this could be your way of coping with it not a good way maybe but if it helps and peolple do understand you know

exchrist · 31-35

I'm glad you have found this place to vent it is perfectly understandable and normal. Especially only 2 weeks out

Poppies · 61-69, F

I think it's understandable and normal to feel this way, and I'm very sorry for your loss. 😞

looking4thesun · M

You're grieving. You don't need to apologize for that. Everyone grieves differently. Take your time

ravenhill · M

i'm so sorry about your beloved mum, she would want you to go on and be strong for her, in her name.

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

Just a question. If you mom could see you now what would she think of your state of mind?

JSul3 · 70-79

You are simply going through the various stages of grief.
Allow yourself that process.

Guardian · 56-60, M

My Condolences! RIP. Try to remember the good times.

BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M

Absolutely normal