When someone betrays you, do you give them a chance to explain themselves or do you just remove...

Eyeinthesky · 56-60, F

Betrayal hurts, but soon I understand it's an aha moment and accept that they weren't meant to be in my life.
I don’t need their explanation.
Although it was a challenging lesson for me to overcome it and open new doors, it is a crucial aspect of life.

alongalone · M

With one I would leave them in the past where they belong, with another I might excuse their behavior because I don't have very many friends left to just throw another one away, even if it's the right thing to do. Like you said it just depends. Is a good question to ponder

Renkon · M

When someone betrays me, I first look at myself. I should’ve judged better, seen the signs I ignored. Every betrayal leaves clues ... we just choose not to see them. So I take it as a wake-up call to grow sharper, wiser, and more aware ... an opportunity to upgrade myself.

BlueVeins · 26-30

I would generally prefer to talk to them, as much for myself as for them. But that obviously depends on the severity of it and I might vanish temporarily out of strong emotions and all.

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

It depends on the situation and the person, a mix of how close they are and how serious the issue is. I will -normally- give someone a chance to explain themselves because sometimes even direct evidence can exist within a context that was denied to me.

PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

When someone betrays me their lies, even if just through their anctions, are already in place too strongly for me to trust anything else they have to say. But if they’re adamant about it I let them say their piece for their own benefit. Otherwise no explanation is needed or even cared for because the damage has been done at that point.