When someone betrays you, do you give them a chance to explain themselves or do you just remove yourself from their life completely?

@Casheyane
There is no such thing as un-consciously betraying someone! 😆

Betrayal can only ever happen on a 'conscious' level of awareness.

@swirlie An example would be telling someone a secret that you didn't know was a secret.

@pride49
It isn't possible to tell someone a secret if you didn't know it was a secret.

If you were not aware that it was a secret, then that alone voids the argument that what you told was a secret!

What you're describing has nothing to do with betrayal.

@swirlie How one feels is not solely dictated by what the other thinks. Someone might feel betrayed by something you did unconsciously. You don't get to tell them not to feel betrayed just because you didn't think you did it.

Stuff happens. No two people are the same.

Betrayal happens when there is a certain amount of trust. It's funny if you can remain ignorant, but time lets people grow up, see things. Who really knows if it would be good for your inner child if you never get to understand that? But then, life has a way of making you see things you never even thought were real.

@swirlie When I read this in the Recent column on the right, the title was cut off a little. It read, "When someone betrays you, do you give them a..." and the next word was "@swirlie" for your comment. Give them a swirlie for betraying you? Sounds good to ME!! 🤣

@Trav2024
The only thing is, my username "swirlie" was a nickname I was given in high school by the other girls on my gymnastics team which had absolutely nothing to do with sticking someone's head in a toilet and flushing it!

@swirlie Oh, OK, but with the combination of the name and the rest of the phrase, that was still funny right thar.

@Trav2024
What's actually funnier to me is that I've never heard the word "swirlie" referring to a toilet head flush until I became a member of SW. I think that college prank must be a British thing or something because a few Brits on here were the first to raise issue with my username a while back! 😏

@swirlie I'm quite surprised, because swirlies were all the rage in my middle and high school days (ages 11 to about 15) and always involved grabbing the unsuspecting victim - usually me - by the ankles and performing the old dunk-and-flush. And, I'm an American. In the age range I mentioned, that was considered a terrible insult. But, your gymnastics club called you that with no toilet involved? Sounds cute.

@Trav2024
I've never heard of what you describe as a high school prank until I joined SW, so I guess we travelled in different circles!