Why can't some people see fault in themselves? Or why are they unable to admit it?
I'm not disincluding myself... But some people seem to be terribly unaware
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WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
I think most people do that to protect themselves and the image they may carry of themselves. To be able to live with themselves.
My mother does this a lot actually, because she simply cannot tolerate the idea that her actions (or lack of) could be cause for her unhappiness and may have hurt others. It’s much much easier for her to project and point the finger outward: “well if they did this or that instead…. Or were this way or that way… then I wouldn’t have done this or that”
I have been guilty of this myself at times. Something I am trying very hard to be mindful of and squash
My mother does this a lot actually, because she simply cannot tolerate the idea that her actions (or lack of) could be cause for her unhappiness and may have hurt others. It’s much much easier for her to project and point the finger outward: “well if they did this or that instead…. Or were this way or that way… then I wouldn’t have done this or that”
I have been guilty of this myself at times. Something I am trying very hard to be mindful of and squash
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@WaryWitchWandering at times is different than someone who does it all the time. It takes a big person to admit that they were wrong.
Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25
I think most people see the faults in themselves. People generally are not deluded to the point they lost contact with the reality of themselves
It's just easier to dismiss, gaslight, or become defensive than it is to apologize and tell someone they're right, then proceed to fix themselves for someone else
It's where that selfishness comes in
It's just easier to dismiss, gaslight, or become defensive than it is to apologize and tell someone they're right, then proceed to fix themselves for someone else
It's where that selfishness comes in
Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25
@caccoon I spent some time thinking about it
I guess it's a type of self-preservative act that stems from desperation. Cuz when we do bad things, we feel ashamed deep down
I mean, obviously so long as we haven't lost our moral compass and compassion 😅
But yeah, we know it's good to acknowledge and confirm for others that what we did was wrong ,_,
I think there are just too many reasons to discourage someone from apologizing but none of them are in service to truth and righteousness
And a beautiful thought which is sunnah is to forgive others. Perhaps are most gorgoues memories are when we felt vulnerable and ashamed and someone accepted our apologies, helped us feel safe that not only will they let us go but they also won't let this incident affect how they view you 😁
So not only should we apologize, I'm thinking forgiving others will also help everyone heal :)
I guess it's a type of self-preservative act that stems from desperation. Cuz when we do bad things, we feel ashamed deep down
I mean, obviously so long as we haven't lost our moral compass and compassion 😅
But yeah, we know it's good to acknowledge and confirm for others that what we did was wrong ,_,
I think there are just too many reasons to discourage someone from apologizing but none of them are in service to truth and righteousness
And a beautiful thought which is sunnah is to forgive others. Perhaps are most gorgoues memories are when we felt vulnerable and ashamed and someone accepted our apologies, helped us feel safe that not only will they let us go but they also won't let this incident affect how they view you 😁
So not only should we apologize, I'm thinking forgiving others will also help everyone heal :)
caccoon · 36-40
@Iwantyourhotwife you're right. And forgiving others is very healing to oneself.
Because even in forgiveness, I think we can still accept that what the other person did was wrong and they are not to be trusted by oneself again.
But thankfully, trust and forgiveness are not the same thing.
Like salt and sugar, they can both be positive, while being very different.
Because even in forgiveness, I think we can still accept that what the other person did was wrong and they are not to be trusted by oneself again.
But thankfully, trust and forgiveness are not the same thing.
Like salt and sugar, they can both be positive, while being very different.
KA9ha · 31-35, M
@SlippingAway thats a negative attitude leading to psychological demotivation. Try to Keep off this attitude
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
How many times have we told our kids "Oh, it is not your fault"....
While knowing that whatever has actually happened .... is simply a result of cause and effect....
And then we have current and past politicians that are on the news daily reinforcing the belief that "It's not my fault".........
While knowing that whatever has actually happened .... is simply a result of cause and effect....
And then we have current and past politicians that are on the news daily reinforcing the belief that "It's not my fault".........
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
It’s hard to admit fault because that means they will have to take that responsibility for causing hurt.
I know I have hurt people and said things I shouldn’t have. I have apologized for it and taken ownership.
When you are dealing with people who won’t take responsibility for their actions they won’t accept an apology because they would have to admit their wrongdoings in the situation too.
We just need to be more aware with our words and actions.
I know I have hurt people and said things I shouldn’t have. I have apologized for it and taken ownership.
When you are dealing with people who won’t take responsibility for their actions they won’t accept an apology because they would have to admit their wrongdoings in the situation too.
We just need to be more aware with our words and actions.
