How do you support your husbands/S.O. crossdressing while also staying true to yourself?

When you hear cross dressing we always think male to female. Do straight women cross dress as men? I've always been curious about that. I mean is that a thing?

My girlfriend says the only thing that matters is the person beneath the clothes. I get that it's not for everybody. Some definitely have lower tolerance levels for their partner's quirks.

But if you love someone, you want to see them happy. You don't have to participate if you don't want to. Though he'd probably be a lot more at ease if he's not being judged by the people closest to him

I told my wife within a couple of weeks of meeting her, that I loved wearing lingerie. I knew if our relationship was going to last, I had to be honest early.

Just because I like wearing clothes designed for women, has not changed who she is.

My wife is very supportive and never says anything bad about my crossdressing. She has given me suggestions on things I could do. She goes shopping with me once or twice a year. She suggested that I get 2 wigs.

All she asks from me is that I dress as a man at least half the time, and I don't crossdress on her birthday, our anniversary or any major holiday. However, she doesn't mind me wearing panties on a daily basis.

I feel very fortunate to have found such a great woman to marry.

Have you tried talking to him and asking him how you can support him in his cross dressing??? I know it's pretty basic advice - but, I've learned that different cross dressers require different approaches.

I've seen some who won't buy for themselves, but will use your clothes to feed their habit - to the point they're too stretched for you to wear again.

Others don't mind going into shops and buying their own clothes and shoes - in fact, I once had one give me a full fashion show at work... until my manager came down and made it clear she was watching him.

I also had one literally throw a nightdress at me like it was on fire because I "forced" him to try it on in front of me - now, I knew that he was a closeted dresser because he was using my clothes to do it with, so, what I did was just another step on the ladder. I was trying to get him more comfortable with doing it around me because I had some very specific ideas of how I wanted to advance things with him that I thought he might like. He wouldn't give me a chance to try them, though.

Another thing you could try is shopping together. Maybe he'd be open to wearing something you like and think would look cute on him??? I've had a couple who were open enough to become a blank canvas for me to dress however I like.

Sometimes, you have to experiment with yourself and find what feels comfortable while possibly stretching the edges of that comfort a bit.

This usually sees most comments inclined towards understanding, and acceptance and non judgement towards the person cross dressing.
And how this is an important part of him her and all that.
But what about the one who's blindsided by this? What if she's not attracted by this new side and can't see him the same?.
I might be understanding and all but I'd be thinking I didn't sign up for this..It's kind of a selfish thing actually.

My husband had a phase where he liked doing it purely for sexual reasons. We tried it once. I wasn't super into it, so we didn't do it again, but it was a fun experience to have with him that one time. If your husband wants to crossdress all the time, and you prefer a stereotypical look for a man, then you guys could maybe compromise and say he should also wear outfits that you really like on him when you go out on dates, or even for a romantic evening at home?

That is a question I have always wondered about myself as a male cross dresser. I guess that is what has kept me single these past 18 years. I am 100% heterosexual though I cross dress. I cannot find a woman that wants to date me, so I stay celibate and enjoy my life.

I always wondered how the women that are married to men that cross dress handles it, especially if the hubby is Bi-sexual. That I could not handle at all myself.

So, as a cross-dressing male I totally understand your question and concerns.

I don't see how this would disrupt who you are as a person. I find that women take one of two paths on this situation assuming they aren't wanting to leave their husband over it. They accept it and go full open support or they have them only do it when they aren't around. You might be hard pressed to find a lot of women who have experience with this

If you are fine with it and everything is good in your marriage, that is the most important thing.
But, I do understand your thoughts on a potential support group.

You seem to support him crossdressing yet also seem frustrated.
Could you clarify your position?

Mine likes to dress manly and i support that instead

Can I advise from a gender dysphoric's point of view? Many dress out of wanting to feel normal, whether from stress or feelings of femininity. Yes, to many it's a sexual fetish, but to others they're items of clothing that represent who they wish they were born as. If you accept his doing so and support him dresseng, then you will have the most loving supporting partner that will walk to the ends of the earth for you.

Things they never taught you in school.

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