How do you support your husbands/S.O. crossdressing while also staying true to yourself?

@HootyTheNightOwl We have had these talks over the many years till we are blue in the face.

We have gone shopping together and done it many times. It's not how crossdressing men envisioned, at least that's how my husband told me.

For us its just like regular clothes shopping. There is nothing special or magical about it.

I say once a couple becomes 100% acceptable. Everything becomes normal, like woman wearing pants did.

On the note of clothes shopping. I hate it and he enjoys it. So i let him do it for entire family. Plus he knows everyones sizes and knows what everyone likes.

As for the expeemental stage. That was decades ago. When we were in the dating stage of our relationship.

@ThickMadame He does have a point with that. Many cross dressing men only do it at certain times and in certain environments.

I also forgot that he has no problem with buying his own clothes as some people who cross dress do. I also get that there's nothing special or magical in it. I've often felt the same when I've been buying clothes for either of my genders. I feel just as comfortable in menswear shops as I do anywhere else.

Finding new things to experiment with does become challenging with time - just like date night as a couple who's been married for a few decades... where do you go when you've already tried everywhere you wanted to go in town and another dinner/movie night at home feels normal.

@ThickMadame Unfortunately, that's society's problem. There are too many misconceptions out there about people who cross dress... one of the biggest being that they all want to be women and "pass" as a woman. I know that he's not remotely into passing as a woman or being a sissy for that matter. He just wants to dress how he feels comfortable on that day - and that's valid, too.

Oddly enough, I feel like he might be right in his hate for the term "cross dresser". I don't think that it really fits him, either... even though it is technically what he does.

He's obviously learned a lot about what he can get away with over the decades if he's still able to wear women's clothes in a way that wouldn't be obviously noticeable unless he wants you to know.

I did try to encourage him to have some sort of date night at home, (if possible) and wear what he enjoys then - even if it's just the two of you having a candlelight takeaway or something homemade. I don't know why I felt that way, but I felt like it would be something you would both enjoy.

He's likely right in that only an idiot would mess with him. Lol, I was trying for a quick and easy block when I first saw him on here... I even told him straight to block me - I never anticipated that we would become friends and that I'd be talking to him about aspects of my life that I've never spoken to anyone else about. Even among the cross dressing community, it's hard to find decent support and people who will admit to knowing what you are going through when you are trying to deal with attitudes towards things like having a beard as a "woman".

I hope he is able to get a replacement of his favourite skirt.

@HootyTheNightOwl Oh, he told me stories from whwn he was younger and how he always getting into fights over his choice of clothing.

He said that's how he learned how to fight. Because he got tired of being beaten up and picked on.

Like in the beginning of this summer. We went to lunch and he wore a sun dress to the truck stop. Just to see if someone would start something with him. All he got was strange looks. Sometimes i think he goes looking for trouble.

BTW he talks about you all the time. He always said. If we every take a trip to London. You would be the first person we would have to visit.

He says your like his twin with differernt parents.

Also I know what's its like to have that lady beard thing. I hate it, but after menopause. The lady beard became a fact of life.

@ThickMadame Yes, he has been telling me some of those stories, too.

You're probably right in that he's deliberately trying to poke the bear in terms of where he goes dressed as a woman at times. He knows that, if it came down to it, he has no problem fighting back now where he couldn't before.

London is a good way south of here... I've only ever been there twice in my entire life.

I've always had the beard ever since puberty... usually, I shave once I get nagged into it for long enough. The thing is that I want to leave it this time and see how it grows. I'm tired of shaving all the time. So far, STBX has told me that I'll get stabbed if I walk around with a beard (we have issues with 18yo men getting stabbed in the marketplace these days), and that people will think he's gay if I'm walking around with a beard. I still can't decide if the former was a death threat/wish or what it was. As for the latter... that's not even a point. I don't have any male anatomy parts - so how does the presence of hair make him "gay"???

Furthermore, I never go out - so how is anyone going to see if I have a beard or not anyway??? I want to see his point, but I can't see any logic.

@HootyTheNightOwl STBX ???? Anyways, he sounds very homophobic to me

@ThickMadame Yes, he's abusive and I've been trying to get away from him for years now. I can't really call him anything other than "soon to be ex" without lying.

@HootyTheNightOwl My ex was a cheater and I caught him in bed with my best friend. I took off work early to surprize him and I caught them on the couch in the act

@ThickMadame He certainly got a surprise alright... just not the kind he might have wanted. Though it's not a nice thing to find out or in the way that you did, at least you were able to address it and get them both out of your life.

It sounds like your grandchildren are up to something that might be worth investigating from what I've just been told, all 4 are crying.

@HootyTheNightOwl What??? How do you know? Wait he must be online.

Thanks i be back later

@ThickMadame Yes, your husband told me... I just figured I could at least help him with finding you, if nothing else 🤣🤣🤣