How do you support your husbands/S.O. crossdressing while also staying true to yourself?

I'm taking a shot in the dark here. I hope I'm not the only one on SW with crossdressing husband, but looking for other women to maybe form SW support group.

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Infamous607 · 51-55, M

This usually sees most comments inclined towards understanding, and acceptance and non judgement towards the person cross dressing.
And how this is an important part of him her and all that.
But what about the one who's blindsided by this? What if she's not attracted by this new side and can't see him the same?.
I might be understanding and all but I'd be thinking I didn't sign up for this..It's kind of a selfish thing actually.

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@Infamous607 You have a great valid point and why the woman a man begins to date needs him to tell her from the start. I do that when and if a woman expresses interest in dating me, and let the chips fall as they may from there on.

Infamous607 · 51-55, M

@WillaKissing of course. It's the right thing to do.

HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45

@Infamous607 What if all she's ever known is that her husband cross dresses??? Maybe he was the bearded dude wearing a skirt or dress the day they met???

It's worth considering that cross dressing isn't always the sort that creeps around in his wife's clothing at 3am, hoping that she doesn't wake up and catch him dressed like this.

Infamous607 · 51-55, M

@HootyTheNightOwl
Of course. If she knows before hand and she's cool with it. Hey, be all you can be!
I have a little issue with a guy that after years of marriage and kids and dogs, suddenly says ..oh by the way ...

HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45

@Infamous607 The thing is that there's not always that "Oh, by the way..." moment that you describe. Sometimes, you go into it with your eyes wide open.

She hasn't said at any point that she was blindsided by his cross dressing, she's just looking for ways where she can support him in ways that feel comfortable and authentic to her.

You just seem to have thought "Crossdresser + Support = Secret" regardless of if it is truthful and applies to them or not.

Infamous607 · 51-55, M

@HootyTheNightOwl
I wasn't talking about the op in particular. I was talking in a theoretical fashion..
She wants to support him. Go for it. It's her journey
Anyway my friend. That's how I see it.
You don't have to agree.