Losing hope as a infected gay.

It's that whole 'Don't Die Of Ignorance' stance, and advert, that we all had in the 80's, certainly in the UK. Sadly, people still see it through those eyes whereas people can indeed live a very long, and healthy, life. They can have children and have good relationships too.

In some ways, the media haven't promoted this, but I have noticed - again in the UK at the very least - that TV programmes, soap operas and such, have tackled this issue a number of times. More power to their elbow!

Just care for him, support him and try to integrate him into everyday life and show that he has some worth.

Sadly there's not much you can do to change the stigma around the disease except for not abandoning your friend. I think your family should know he's infected if he does move in with you, he will probably be careful enough, but they could also help in ways like reminding him to take his drugs and avoid exposing him to further dangers as he's immumocompromised and therefore at risk of much more. Also he must be in contact with healthcare providers and someone to assist him psychologically (therapist) if he isn't already.

It sounds like he'd benefit from more support and talking to others in his situation, I've no idea if any of this will be helpful but it's all online stuff, although a lot is UK based I don't see why he shouldn't still be able to join and get support from others to hopefully give him back his will to live...

https://www.healthline.com/health/hiv/online-hiv-support-groups#hiv-aids-therapy-tribe

https://www.tht.org.uk/our-services/living-well-hiv/my-community-forum

Im sure there are drugs that can cure aids these days. I dont think aids is transferrable by touch, so people around him should be safe.

This is a genuine dilemma. Sure, you want to show compassion to your friend and help him. But, inviting him into your home because you trust him and withholding information from your family because you already know they won't trust him and his disease is about as deceptive as anyone can get. No offence, but you are basically making a decision for them to satisfy your own self-absorbed interests. That is showing an astounding lack of compassion. If you want to openly expose yourself that is your choice to make. Give your family the same decision-making consideration. Your behaviour suggests you don't really feel like they count.

The thing is, there are other ways you can help, support, and encourage your friend without forcing your family to do so without any say in the matter. There are social services that provide counseling, drug and talk therapy, shelter, companionship, pet-matching, and life skill development which it sounds like he needs if he is unable to deal with the reality that everyone isn't going to like him and may talk "bad" about him.

Helping your friend by deceiving your family isn't a proper solution. I hope you come to that realization... for everyone's long-term concern.

It would be better to find community that has Hiv/aids people surround him so that he didn't feel lonely. I wish I can help. It must be devastating for him. 😕

Keep him working out. Maybe just a little to boost his health and mental health even just a bit.
Other than that, stay hygiene.

I only know someone who has hepatitis. I told her to keep everything clean. Her clothes, utensils she use. It's for caution.
But unlike your friend, she is more stubborn, dense and careless. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I would also avoid someone with aids, not because I hate people who have aids, but because I don't want to get it from them 🤦‍♀️

{@munirah] i am sad to say even from when a.i.d.s came into the western world in the early eighties there was panic and hysteria . do not get me wrong i am not playing this down but it is now as at its start the ignorace of people never ceases to amaze you

As long as he stays on his meds as prescribed by his doctor, there's no reason why he can't live as long a life as someone without aids.

Some therapy and a support group may be beneficial to him, too. At the end of the day only someone else with the disease can truly understand what he is going through.

By law he has to tell your family if he did move in with them.

cant tell your family that he is infected but let him live with you guys? wow

By the way she said he has Aids not HIV everyone is talking about HIV but there is a difference between HIV and full blown Aids

It's not hate, it's more of a fear that they are going to get affected by it.

So if he has been gay for the last 6 years what was he before he became gay?

What about another aids infected gay?