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Do you sometimes wonder how people perceive you?

I always think people probably view me as a shy, people pleaser. Which is mainly true but they take advantage of it frequently. Do you ever wonder how others see you?

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beermeplease · M

yeah sometimes.... but i want to know what a shrink thinks about me versus what non shrinks think of me.....i'd rather go with a non shrink's opinion 🤣

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Online I am very much different than in real life.

I really am a very quiet person in real life. I mostly listen to others and say very little.

I still don't know most of my neighbors names. And now there's only two others. And we all have been here since August.

The third neighbor, whose name I knew, was just evicted. And we all knew his name! 🤣

He was that big of a problem.

HumanEarth · 56-60, F

I think they see me as a fun loving guy, with a wild crazy humor. Once they get to know know me.

And why do I use you as therapist? Oh, yeah, that right. Because your comfortable to talk to

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@HumanEarth I am sorry of your incident..no one deserves that. Do meds help now to stabilize it?

HumanEarth · 56-60, F

Well they went away in 1996 and came back in May 2023 where I spent most of the year in and out hospital because the doctors say my seizure was strong and severe that it cause me to have a stroke.

I am not 100% yet, but I'm back to running and back to farm work.

I'm on medication now, which I don't want to be on. Because they cause cancer.

I'm researching for natural medication in the form of plants and I'm not talking smoking pot either. I was always against that. (Not for anyone else, just for myself only)

Like eating raw garlic, mixing a teaspoon Hydrogen peroxide in with glass full of water everyday.

These things

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@HumanEarth Im sorry of these rough times. 😞 my dad had a stroke and then had two seizures following it. He is on a med Keppra..it really helps as he has not had a seizure in a few years now. That is great you are back doing physical things.
I am logging out to head to bed but have a nice weekend.

Carissimi · F

I don’t care as much as I used to. In fact, I hardly care at all, although we should care just a little, but not much.

Colonelmustardseed · 36-40

I stopped wondering much. Enough of them told me they think that I think I’m better than them, or that I’m judging them. (Usually told when I’m just sitting quietly) I try to explain that I’m just socially awkward and don’t know what to say, but I don’t think I’m believed. Same thing happened in childhood. I was shy, and was considered a snob.

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HootyTheNightOwl

After so long of my mother's unwanted opinions of me, I went the opposite way and don't really give a shit what others think of me most of the time... it will still hurt me if I consider myself to be close to someone with a negative opinion of me, though.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@HootyTheNightOwl We are very similar. I am sorry your mom also gave unwanted opinions. It can tear your entire identity down if it is often or cruel.. a s my mom's were. But I try to constantly make others happy at my own expense..because she made me believe I was nothing, i try to prove to other i am good. It is exhausting.

HootyTheNightOwl

@Coralmist I am nothing... If I as much as think that I or anyone else can see something good in me, I am mistaken or they're just saying that.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@HootyTheNightOwl Wrong. You are NOT nothing Hooty🌹. Im actually reading a book ironically called There is Nothing Wrong with You by Cheri HUber. Here is a quote I read the other Day.." You are not truly serving if there is any part of yourself to which you will not extend compassion. "
And another..
"Self hate is invested in convincing you that you are an awful person , that deep down inside you there is some horrible thing. Why? Because it stays in charge that way . It can just say boo! and you'll jump back and do whatever it says. But you can call its Bluff simply by saying "Bring out the horrible thing. Show it to me". But self-hate can't do that. And the more it cannot show you the horrible thing, the more it will Dawn on you that maybe it doesn't exist. Maybe there isn't a "HORRIBLE thing "inside of you. Self-hate begins to scramble at this point because power is Shifting away from it ...and shifting to that part of you who is able to step back from self hate and carry on this kind of dialogue with it, that can begin to stop believing that there is something wrong with you, the part of you that is beginning to be free."

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Yeah and I often think they see just a basic surface, mostly focus on the rough visual traits and the fact I don't have much to say. But I really wonder what people who show more interest in me see. It's beyond my imagination.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I always think about how people see me, I don’t think I was a great person when I was younger and now maybe I try too hard to be liked, but it’s very important to me to try to be nice, arguing is really upsetting.

LilPrincess · 41-45, F

I battle with wondering this often. Part of me cares and sometimes part of me really doesn't.

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GovanDUNNY · M

@BLP11520 me as well

LilPrincess · 41-45, F

@BLP11520 thank ya I appreciate that

LilPrincess · 41-45, F

@GovanDUNNY thank ya kindly

AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

Unfortunately this is my worst issue. I don't worry about it, but I always feel like the outsider. I have no idea what people think of me and they aren't always honest. It makes me nervous.