Are the holidays a trigger for anyone else?

You're not alone. Christmas was never happy safe times when I grew up. I remember fights. Blood and abuse. Destroyed Christmas presents. Being locked out from the house in -20. Mom taking off abandoning us kids. Grandpa going in with ambulance. And I was badly abused by my ex one Christmas too. I escaped and ran outside on the winter night storm and waited for a car to pick me up and just take me away. But maybe I'd just end up in a new dangerous situation so I went back with my tail between my legs hoping he'd understand..

Thank you for this post. It's hard hearing people go "WHAT'S YOUR FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS TRADITION?"

And just not coming up with any good memory. Makes me sad.

I have good holiday memories with my boyfriend but I don't really remember them that well. I just remember what didn't happen. I'm probably very dissociative during the Christmas holidays.

What I look forward to the most is when my brother in law comes cause he has a dog. And it makes me so happy to be around dogs because my old dog was the only good happy part about Christmas. I could take him out when it was too much noise inside and we would enjoy the winter stars and how silent the whole neighborhood is and just me and him. Happiness.

Family is dead. I hate holidays. I still do stuff for my kid, but I'd rather be left alone.

Holidays being a trigger was one of the discussion points in my therapy session this morning.

Sorry but your mom sounds terrible! I mean I'm sorry she's your mom... Hope your dad got to enjoy his candy and recovers soon, though.


Holidays for me are fine. Only thing is, it makes work 10x more stressful. But that's just whatever.

I’m so sorry, precious. 😞 🫂

Not much to say except stand your ground and be with your dad... Maybe some zoom sessions with him regularly just to cheer him up

I know bad it feels. I've spent a few holidays alone too. The worst for me was when people looked at me so pitifully.

It does. For some reason my dad who was abusive got worse during the holidays.

Sorry your mom is like that and you cried all the way home. Heart goes out to you. 🤗

I’m sorry that your mother is an abusive beeoch. You didn’t deserve to be treated so horribly nor did you do anything wrong. 🤗🤗

Christmas has sucked for years, trying to make the best of it. 3rd Christmas without my brother. 😢

I think about the holidays I used to enjoy with extended family, that we don't now. All because my grandmother disowned my mom for not yelling at me after I took him a friend of mine who was going to be homeless if I did nothing.