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Are the holidays a trigger for anyone else?

And furthermore..if it's not one thing, it's your mother?

I went to my parents' to bring a candy bouquet to dad since he just got back in town from his back surgery.

My dad couldn't get up, so my mom 😒🙄 had to get the door. I was there for DAD, and dad ALONE..not.her.abusive.ass.

She kept interjecting and trying to talk to me, knowing full well she lied endlessly in our counseling session, saying I BRANDISHED A BUTCHER KNIFE at her, threatening her LIFE, etc.

As I was leaving, she perkily said that a family friend made them chicken noodle soup, and she had saved me some, and would I like to hang out there for a little while.

NO. I would NOT like to be cajoled with FOOD after the food addiction you instigated, mother. NO. I would NOT like to pal around with you after you ruined my entire family and took my nieces and nephews from me.

Grrr. She gets EXACTLY what she wants when she does this. A sob story that "Brittany is so rude", when I am just drawing a RESOLUTE BOUNDARY.

Don't get me started on the BOUNDARIES book she gifted me!!!!! I drove home weeping. This will be my 4th Christmas alone, and dad looked so weak and old 😪😪😪
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Convivial · 26-30, F
Not much to say except stand your ground and be with your dad... Maybe some zoom sessions with him regularly just to cheer him up
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@Convivial i have done everything in my power to be around him. he has only gone on 2 daddy daughter dates with me this year, and one time he came over to look at my garage door. i cherish every minute..i just wish he wasnt in the middle, and that she would stop trying to insinuate herself. i already know im prob out of the will too. they made it a point to call a "family" meeting just to point out that only my siblings will be in charge of will stuff. they also get keys to the house..use of the vehicles..my parents even fly thousands of miles to babysit for my sister. it is so unfair and hurtful, when i am the only one who stayed in town, 20 mins from them.
Convivial · 26-30, F
@foldedunfolding what you describe is not unusual... Painful still though...I think the phrase my way or the highway is what your mother wants