What do you think reveals the most about a person without knowing much about them?

@icedsky Could you please give me an example?

@SW-User Not first impressions because those are often wrong. But someone you've met recently that is a total jerk to people or a certain group of people.

@AbbeyRhode Could that personality not be separate from their overall personality, or do you think it filters through their whole being?

@SW-User It's part of the whole person. How a person treats working people, that some may consider 'beneath' them, is important. Also, how they treat children and animals. A good person will show kindness to all.

@calicuz

And maybe it comes from your high quality of emotional intelligence and experience.... well done anyway... 🤗🤗

@Soossie

Thank you for that. Much love to you. 🥰

@calicuz

Much love to you too my friend... 🙏🙏💖

@Jeephikelove With those people I would at least know I would be talked about, if nothing else. 😂

@SW-User lol true

@SW-User I depends on the reason why they leave. I loved someone for 7.5 years. She promised me to be there as a good friend. But after she was struggling and I helped her with a small gift for her business. She never responded, infact she blocked me. There are also many other such examples. I really lost hopes from people.

@littlepuppywantanewlife I'm really sorry to hear that. Although none of this you could have foreseen, right? Which adds to my belief that we can't really know someone. People can always surprise us.

@SW-User That's true. People can change with time and situation.

@revenant Indeed. When they're not trying to impress or prove something.

@Magenta yes. Lots of people know "how to fake " it so I dismiss that old waiters cliche pretty much now

@Magenta absolutely my own thinking

@Purplehaze78 Fair point. At that point they can't see beyond their ego.

@SW-User No, i don't automatically assume that the angry person is a monster. We all have different breaking points and have loads to carry. It simply tells me that whatever made them that angry must be more important than listening to reason.

@bijouxbroussard I learned that the hard way 😁.

Lovely 😊.
Don’t forget to read my disclaimer 😌@calicuz

@SW-User very interesting and well said.

Thank you madame 🙇‍♂️@SW-User

@Freeranger And yet, is it enough to know someone by how they live and the company they keep? They can live well drowning in debt and the company people keep can also be alright even if a lot of people choose to decide otherwise. Sometimes all it says is they dared to stand different.

On here, it needs more time and more close engagement with someone and then you'll have a better picture.

@plungesponge To me all animals are beautiful. Even the ugly ones.😂

@WhateverWorks Interesting point.

@Rokasu Would you determine whether or not you want to know a person based off those alone?

@SW-User It’s 50/50. Loneliness drives me to make a sacrifice or two lol

@MoonlightLullaby 💯🥰❤️

@Fairydust We do have quite a bit in common.😉💖

I have dicovered things that weren't so lovely, and in a way, I'm glad, but in one case, it was downright heartbreaking.

@MoonlightLullaby same, just makes you stronger.❤️🥰

@SethGreene531 So many people don't have grace and reverence, even for themselves. You must hold very high standards if that is what you thought of first.

@SW-User Dignified or restrained conduct when one's temper or patience is measured.

Some individuals are measured and found wanting. Revealing a sore lack of emotional maturity, and respect for themselves or others.

For example, regard how your dinner date treats wait staff who mishandle an order; a boss, the employee who's made an honest mistake; or the pet owner or father, whose little charges are acting out.

@SW-User Lol. I have enjoyed being love bombed (when I didn't know what it was) and then I have also cried tears when the breadcrumbing came in. And then I educated myself on the whole thing of narcissists.😂 I learnt a lot about myself too in that process.

@SW-User hahaha yes cheap words 😕
It's good that you learned about those, me too

@Muthafukajones All good points.

@SW-User

I have some of my best dates waiting in a restaurant for a table. It can be amazingly fun waiting with a new woman waiting to be seated. It can be awkward or even unpleasant with others. It reveals a lot.

@caPnAhab some kind of voyeuristic tendencies?

@SW-User I guess so

But I'm trying not to find out

@wildbill83 Lol. That can also be some triggering pattern in them that can make their reaction less than nice. What would that reveal to you?

@Unlearn How do you ascertain we're right?

@SW-User When they keep reinforcing my judgment with their behaviour or words. It's almost like a game with me. When i meet or communicate with a person, i form an opinion on them and most of the times, over a period of time, my opinion gets validated. I guess that allows me to have more confidence in my initial opinions on people...

@assemblingaknob I'm beginning to think so too.

@SW-User yes. I learnt that the hard way at work. The worst people will paint you as they wish, all the while being the most disgusting ass human beings themselves. I don't know how the worst people have the most friends.

@assemblingaknob Because they have the ability to sneak in to peoples minds and hearts with all their fakeness.

@Degbeme And what about their gobs being open?👀😂

@SW-User It`s what spills out. 🤭

@SW-User In what way?

@SW-User

You can just sense their true feelings toward you. No words needed. @SW-User

@4meAndyou Feel free to ignore this of course but I am really curious and if you will oblige me- why do you do that?

@SW-User No, I would never ignore you. I haven't done it in many years, but it was always tied up with feelings of love and attraction on my part.

@4meAndyou Okay, I understand a bit better now. And thank you for saying that. ❤️

@Nimbus That can be manipulated to project so many things.🙃

@JustNik Yes. Every time we observe something in someone, we're just witnessing a part of the puzzle that they are. I believe that. I also believe that where we 'stand' in our lives and mindset has a huge impact on how we would view them too.
Which throws the whole 'absolute knowing' out of the window for me, lol.

@SW-User See ..butter not wait for why nots to churn😄

@bookerdana Love the word play. 😂

@SW-User I'll let myself out

@reflectingmonkey yeah it says a lot.

@reflectingmonkey i know someone who does that well but is very very bad.

@SW-User [quote]I think a lot of bad blood exists between people when minds are made up.
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Totally agree.
And all the methods are partial, without giving a full picture. The full picture could be something totally different.

@Ontheroad true

@SW-User Good points.

@SW-User Everyone wants to be liked. But some people are just genuinely nice, and others are narcissists, it's usually easy to tell the difference.

@Rolexeo I'm sorry for pushing this point but I really want to understand this. How is it easy to tell the difference from genuinely nice and narcissist?

@SW-User It's ok, basically narcissism will eventually manifest. The negative emotions come out, whether it be guilt-tripping you over something, expressing a lot of hatred towards someone else, etc.

@OhIsMe Right? Every time I think something reveals something about someone, I have a counterpoint. 😂 Which makes me think that maybe we just like to think we can assess but it's often just very rudimentary guidelines, sometimes even symptoms of something darker. E.g, covert narcissism hiding as altruism.

@Fluffybull what if they only read self help book?

@Fluffybull How would you ever find out if they read it?

@Dainbramadge So you go digging peoples backyards? How long after introductions?😂

@SW-User If you really want to know the truth, you will go the extra yard. LOL

@DearAmbellina2113 True.

@SW-User It depends a great deal on how much knowledge one has oneself. For example, in the UK you can immediately tell a great deal about someone from their accent. If you are very well-travelled you could apply that to other nations. Generally though it's a combination of things and it depends how observant you are and how much you know. For example, can you recognize high end clothing which doesn't have visible logos? People's hands offer a lot of information, as do their faces and hairstyles...if you understand what you are looking at. How someone carries themselves in general is a good indicator of background and character too.

@agetheweebeast Cannot argue with any of that. True.

@SW-User I have found the surest way to for me to get a beat on a stranger is to simply extend my hand, make eye contact and introduce myself. "I'm *my name* How do you do?"
The correct response to which, is technically to ask "How do you do?" In return.
If they know this, you can immediately assign them a certain level of social status.
How they react gives me a very good idea of who they are in a short amount of time. For example, are they accustomed to polite introductions or does this make them slightly flustered..do they start rabbiting their head off nervously or do they simply respond in kind and not try to engage in further conversation. You can sum people up pretty well just doing that, in my experience.

@Barny52 My dogs both liked the 3rd ex because he helped me to raise them from puppies...and one of them actually swam across a shallow river while we were rock hunting to follow him...and HE loved her. And yet...after they died he became a nightmare of a person.

@Barny52 That's an interesting one.

@alan20 I've always related a lot more to men than women. It's not that I am masculine and it's not even that there is any kind of sexual tension with men who have been friends. I just find more common ground and I enjoy their company.

@SW-User Thank you for writing again. I very much value your friendship. I'll write at more length later.

@alan20 ❣️

@deathfairy So true! There is always some level of projection going on.

@Ducky Haha, I can imagine how triggering criticism is to a lot of people. 'How dare they!?' syndrome as I call it.😂

@Mooed78 True. Can a person not like animals and be a good person anyway? I wonder.

@SW-User that’s a good question 🧐

@Majorsite Mine do !

@Majorsite I never look for those intentionally. 😂

@SW-User Oh, But I'd bet You would like Mine, Very artistically done !

@SW-User that is genuine kindness or lack of...true.