How do you cope with envy?

I've never suffered from envy but what did help me ALOT feel better about myself was working on me . Physically,mentally , education wise etc....u have to do things that....make u proud of you and u need to deal with that internalized shame and hate for yourself.

The only thing that works for me is doing good. If I feel content and satisfied I don't have these feelings. If I'm not doing well, feel depressed, feel a lot of existential dread etc. I isolate myself from people who have great time, do well etc. I can't stand being around them and frankly, there's a high risk I would behave shitty if I was somehow forced to be around them and their success and happiness was rubbed in my face while I'd feel like drowning.

I think that you have to rationalise it. It's a futile exercise. You go round in circles and end up right where you started. It is not in our gift to have all things. Some will have more, some will have less. Some will appear to have more while actually having less. What you see from the outside doesn't tell the whole story either.

Ultimately, time spent agonisting over what others have is time wasted. Focus on yourself. You have but one life and you are the only one who can make something of it.

Sounds like anxiety due to not feeling equal to them. That can be used to propel you forwad if you change its meaning.

What do you think of yourself? How could you raise your self worth?