How do you cope with envy?

I’ve always struggled with comparing myself to my friends and what they could afford growing up and what we looked like, what we dressed like…now it’s gone to the next level of comparing spouses and families. Sometimes it leads me into dark rabbit holes snd I don’t like it. :/

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ninalanyon · 70-79, TVIP

The only person you have any reason to compare yourself with is your past self, not other people.

If you are by any measure a better person now than you used to be then that is a success.

But comparing yourself to others is a recipe for eternal misery because there is always someone smarter, prettier, more successful, richer or whatever other dimension you might measure them on.