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Is it weird to reach out to a guy via social media if we haven’t met in person?

There’s this guy at the gym who I think is so cute. I just found his Instagram a few days ago but he hasn’t posted in over a year.

I see he is a personal trainer according to a post from 2021, would it be weird to ask him about the training plans from that post— such as 1 on 1 training if we have never spoken to eachother in person?

I’m afraid itll be awkward at the gym if he declines lol

Something along the lines of, “ Hi, I’m (insert my name)! We go to the same gym but don’t believe we’ve met. Are you still offering these plans?
SW-User
Why not reach out to him at the gym next time you see him?
@SW-User it has come to my attention that he is more socially awkward than I am. I think I might die if I try, plus my mom goes to the gym with me so I don’t want her to know I’m down bad LOL
SW-User
@VomitingWords ahh well You could try the Instagram but if he hasn't been active for a year he might not even be checking it
fun4us2b · M
@VomitingWords Actually - the fact your mom is with you at the gym, is the perfect excuse to use instagram when you post you can say...my mom is at the gym, so I feel funny asking then but....etc...
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I feel like it would make things much more awkward if you sent him a message on a social media account he didn’t give you because that means you went deep diving his name. I remember when someone did that to me once and it was super creepy, not endearing.

Seriously better to just do an icebreaker at the gym and if he’s not into it then it’s not a big deal because it was only chitchat, not you bearing your soul.
calicuz · 56-60, M
Sounds like a plan to me, it also sounds like you know exactly what you're doing.
Reject · 26-30, M
Listen. Just approach him and try to make conversation. If he’s awkward he’ll be extra aware and get the hint when you’re awkward too. You guys can laugh about it. Even if nothing comes of it, you’ll make him a lot happier because it’s one of the biggest compliments a guy can receive to have a girl approach him.
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Yes, that’s weird. Does your gym have a website which lists the trainers there? Or you’ll see him clearly training someone at times when you’re working out
@BeefySenpie The gym mostly consists of class/group workouts, with a small area for free weights and self workout. I go to the classes meanwhile he trains by himself in the other area. I would workout in that area too if I weren’t so shy or worried about embarrassing myself.

We are both members— the gym we go to has their own personal trainers, did not actually know he was also a PT until I stalked his insta. It seems to be more of his side hustle
deadgerbil · 26-30
I'd just try to find an excuse to talk to him at the gym. Going about it this way might make it even more weird
@deadgerbil He’s awkward, I’m awkward. I guess we will just continue to side eye one another for the rest of our lives
@deadgerbil would it be weird to just follow him and nothing else
deadgerbil · 26-30
@VomitingWords yolo lol be bold and talk to him
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I’d say

Hi ! We go to the same gym.

How’s it going?

If he’s a man who is interested in women and more importantly you then he will respond positively to that. Trust me. 😉
th3r0n · 41-45, M
Most of the time, if a guy is single he is happy to hear from a pretty girl, and flattered even if he is Single

Not much risk
Gusman · 61-69, M
Not at all weird.
Go ahead and ask.
But will he even see your post if he has not posted for a year?
You can only hope he gets notifications.
Kinopio · 31-35, T
It’s kinda weird, I think you need to stop if you couldn’t reach him or talk to him in real life first.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
I think it's ok. But then it looks like you are stalking him, how did you find his instagram ?
Ferric67 · M
You can message him and ask about workouts, that is why he is advertising on social media
Do it in PERSON.

1000X better and he’ll be more flattered then just Another DM to read.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
how the fuck did you even find his account?
@Jackaloftheazuresand Man, it was TOUGH but I got his first name from another gym mate and found him on the gyms’ Instagram account as a follower
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@VomitingWords that's creepy
monellla731 · 46-50, M
maybe introduce yourself? I think he would talk to you and want to know you
Sepia · 36-40, F
If he does the service, ask him.. nothing wrong about it.
Lostlostlost · 51-55, M
Or just talk to him at the gym!
@Lostlostlost I cannot think of a way to do it without it being terribly awkward 😫
Sounds normal to me. He will prob respond
SW-User
It's ok & normal in this day & age.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Oh u want a personal trainer 😉
HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
Go for it
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
I think when a woman reaches out to me I think its so weird and I close down, I had it a few times recently when talking to people in my work environment, they phoned me up after working hours on my work phone.
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