If someone intentionally did you dirty, would you be able to be friends later on?

If it was intentional, then that’s malicious, and those kind are toxic and cannot be trusted. The younger me was very tolerant of abusive people, probably because I was brought up by a toxic person. The older and wiser I became, my tolerance diminished, until I have no tolerance at all, and have most likely over-corrected because of it.

I cannot be friends with anyone who would do such things. I have been in such situations and it is hurtful. None of these could ever be explained away as unintentional or with good intentions. I have seen people who talk bad about someone behind their back and be as sweet as can be to their face. Even though their actions were not toward me that I witnessed, I could not be their friend from that day forward as the question always popped into my head whether they were doing the same things to me. I found out later they were. They are toxic human beings and should be avoided.

IDK. I would need to actually be in the situation to determine that versus making wild predictions on some scenario.

A friend should be able to talk to you if there's something they don't understand or if they're in need. If they immediately engage in gossip or theft then clearly our bond is not one based on respect and understanding.

Betrayal is a deal breaker for me. I've tried being forgiving in the past, but they always just do it again.

Depends how close we were and how I feel about them. We all make mistakes sometimes, the one thing I can't stand is if I apologize for my part in something and the other person accepts my apology then pretend they did nothing wrong themselves.. that makes me want to retract my own apology immedietly lmao! 🫣

Not really .. they become someone I know, but no longer include in my circle at that point

nope, never again, i would have nothing more to do with them.

no, definitely not.
If they can do casually dishonest things like that, they're not a person I would want to know.

No. I can't trust them after that.

No never

Nope

Once when we were young many years later after we’d both done some growing up. We were also very good friends for years before the incident though.

No i ditched a lady for all that recently

Many years ago I was very popular at school, but I fell out with one guy over a girl. ok, so he would try to hurt me. But where did he get his info about me. Many years later I found it was another my close friends who was feeding him.

I would try to give benefit of doubt unless it were something serious

If you call me “friend”?
Then I know everything I need to know about you.
If you call me “enemy”?
Then I know more than your friends.

If they truly regret what they did and can be a genuine friend , I could.

I'd keep them as a casual acquaintance. I caught someone trying to upskirt me and I still have do with them.

I suppose I could, but it would depend upon how close of a friend they were, and if they had the gonads to fess up and apologize.

Nope.

Never

No

If they were true friends that wouldn't happen so .........

It really depends on the circumstances, last year someone had disclosed something intentionally just to hurt me, knowing it would make things very hard for me and immediately called my integrity into question. He essentially used me as a scapegoat however, this was because they had misunderstood me (it appeared I'd done something which I hadn't). I have forgiven them purely because of that reason alone, I could definitely understand why he would have thought it. Friendship would not be an option in the future anyway I doubt, but possibly more than that when our circumstances change in the next few years.

No ..I already have trust issues...I have no problem cutting people off

No

Oh hell no. In my experience the people who do you dirty once tend to do it more than once unless you surgically remove that tumor.

I agree with you. Trust is very important. Per the saying, when someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.

Nope, I stopped talking to someone for years after a mutual friend blew the whistle on him. He was talking shit about me to anyone who would listen. I did a lot of good things for that guy, so I stay away.

No, I can’t. It’s too hard to trust.

That's the end of the relationship for me.

Somebody on here has come to me to directly accuse me of things I hadn't done, I forgave and forgot the first couple of times, but the last time I said, I'm done, I won't be interacting with them again, so I muted them and steer clear

No.

No