If someone intentionally did you dirty, would you be able to be friends later on?

It can be something as small as telling a little lie about you, gossiping about you, stealing something not very valuable from you, hiding secrets from you, or anything at all that isn’t in your favor.

Personally, if I know someone did something against me, I don’t think I can be their friend later down the line. It’s like if I can’t trust them with something small, then I sure as hell can’t trust them with something bigger.

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Depends how close we were and how I feel about them. We all make mistakes sometimes, the one thing I can't stand is if I apologize for my part in something and the other person accepts my apology then pretend they did nothing wrong themselves.. that makes me want to retract my own apology immedietly lmao! 🫣

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@SW-User not sure how I feel about this response. I can definitely forgive someone who makes honest mistakes, but I just can’t stand people who are out to sabotage me then expect me to be friends. It’s like they have that seed of evil in them against me, so I can’t trust them. Forgive? Perhaps. Friends? Most likely not.

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@SW-User I don't know, like I had a really close friend who stole a bit of money from me, and towards the end of our friendship she started physical fights which I finished. I would absolutely forgive her now, but the thing is that she was very young when all this happened. I think she started holding a lot of resentment towards me, and now that I'm old enough to understand why, this would all be water under the brigde for me. I think if she saw how much I've matured as a person since those times, it would be so for her too.

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@SW-User Did you laugh at my post because it was inspired by my comment to you?

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@SW-User yeah, I have had childhood friends stole money from me too. I totally forgive them because young people can be greedy. It’s the grownups that are dangerous imo.

And tbh, not sure why I smiled at your post. Maybe it’s because I was wondering if someone not apologizing back is that big of a deal to you for you enough to question it. The retracting the apology is kinda funny, not gonna lie.

SW-User

@SW-User Lol well I just thought about it when replying to you because it happened to me recently, and I feel like it's a whole topic in and of it's own, because it tells a lot about someone whether they do or don't in my opinion. You can see what I wrote about that to Fairydust in the comments under my post too. I do agree that as adults there's a lot less leeway because we're supposed to know better at this point.