Chances of having a healthy baby after 40
Title says it all what are the chances of having a healthy baby between the ages of 40-43?
Rilyn · 31-35, F
Depends if it's your first or not and a few other factors. Some struggle by that time period resorting to IVF and other fertility treatments. Pregnancy is always a risk no matter your age and other possible health factors. Ultimately it can happen to anyone but chances of risk are slightly higher as menopause approaches for a female egg quality also reduces.
This is just the baseline. Anyone above 39 trying to concieve should consult with their consultants to guide them and test them as needed.
This is just the baseline. Anyone above 39 trying to concieve should consult with their consultants to guide them and test them as needed.
Rilyn · 31-35, F
@bushi2020 Success for IVF isnt instant. Some manage right away others take longer. Also there are different treatments one can consider before going for the more aggressive one. Consider finance also. Plus it being time consuming etc etc. I'm no medic but I struggled with my #2 ended up conceving him naturally in one of the greatest miracles I've seen because prognosis wasn't good. Yet. Here we are. So at any rate don't give up.
graphite · 61-69, M
Slim and slimmer. Modern western culture tells women to wait until they are in their 30s and 40s to have babies. It's doable, sometimes. Biology still says the best time is early 20s. Apparently, fertility starts going down at age 23. Expensive, invasive fertility procedures often don't work. And if you do succeed at 40+, be prepared to be responsible for children well into your 60s, when you might otherwise have wanted to cut back on responsibilities and lessen the workload. Won't happen with teens and 20somethings still around the house.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@graphite You are correct. I feel that in the US and some other western countries we were sold a bill of goods. It was preached to us growing up in the 90s, don't be like previous generations, don't marry young, wait as long as possible to have kids so that you are financially set up.
Well life doesn't work that way. Sometimes while going to get a masters or doctorate or trying to wait to get married until you've paid your house off things don't work out.
I think that because previous generations never had that issue, they never considered that there might be a negative side to their message of female empowerment. I love female empowerment but the message wasn't balanced. Sometimes by late 30s its too hard to concieve. I wanted to marry early but in my area no guys wanted to get married young like I did.
Well life doesn't work that way. Sometimes while going to get a masters or doctorate or trying to wait to get married until you've paid your house off things don't work out.
I think that because previous generations never had that issue, they never considered that there might be a negative side to their message of female empowerment. I love female empowerment but the message wasn't balanced. Sometimes by late 30s its too hard to concieve. I wanted to marry early but in my area no guys wanted to get married young like I did.
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
One of my cousins just did. She is actually 44 and just had her first baby! She had given up on trying to get pregnant years ago and was totally content with her life with her husband… then BAM positive pregnancy test. She only tested bc she was feeling so off and much to her surprise she was pregnant.
Pregnancy was healthy up until the end. She was sent for csection 4wks early because of blood pressure (and baby was breech). He was delivered a bit over 6lbs and is a very healthy happy lil guy. He is a few weeks old now with no complications or illness.
Pregnancy was healthy up until the end. She was sent for csection 4wks early because of blood pressure (and baby was breech). He was delivered a bit over 6lbs and is a very healthy happy lil guy. He is a few weeks old now with no complications or illness.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@WaryWitchWandering So glad to hear this.
Punches · 46-50, F
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Spoiledbrat · F
Some people don't want to put their career on hold. I mean to each their own. @Punches
graphite · 61-69, M
@Spoiledbrat Raising babies is a full-time, overtime job. Tough to juggle it with a full time professional career.
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
@bushi2020 No I didn't but I know a woman who did.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@butterflybaby75 Was the baby healthy?
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
@bushi2020 Yes - I'm good friends with her and supported her a lot during her pregnancy and I got to be at the birth too!
SW-User
One of my aunts had her babies at 38 and 40...the first are twins and were premature and very small so did need a lot of medical assistance for several weeks after birth. The second was actually fine and wasn't premature. I have another family member who had a healthy baby when she was in her mid 40's.
Personally I'd like to keep having kids until mid to late 30's. I'm pregnant with my third baby now and would like at least five more.
Personally I'd like to keep having kids until mid to late 30's. I'm pregnant with my third baby now and would like at least five more.
graphite · 61-69, M
@SW-User The older you get, the more likely you are to pass away, obviously. More people are going to die in their 60s than their 40s. Nobody is guaranteed 80 years. FWIW, by having kids in your 20s, you can pretty much count on watching your grandchildren grow up, probably attend their weddings. Having kids at 40? Forget it.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@graphite Look at Kris Jenner she had her two daughters at 40 and 42 and she got to see them get married and shes a grandma. You just got to take really good care of yourself but you are right its not a guarantee and I guess you are kind of robbed of the magic of being a grandparent to a extent.
SW-User
@graphite more likely in a general sense doesn't mean it will happen or is likely to happen to every individual. I know people who've died young, middle-aged, and old. There's so many variables involved that if you are in your 40's and get pregnant, depending on your health you may as well continue with the pregnancy and try to look after yourself. Parenthood isn't just attending weddings and paying for your kids college lol...it's being a role model to your children and ensuring that they are cared for and that they become good people. If you do have to sacfrice your retirement funds or continue working over 60, then so be it.
Life means nothing if you can't give yourself to your children, no matter how old you are.
Life means nothing if you can't give yourself to your children, no matter how old you are.
woodyemma2013 · 41-45, F
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@GeistInTheMachine Why?
Ontheroad · M
What @bijouxbroussard said - from what I've seen it really depends on whether or not she is in general healthy (cardiovascular health is important) and if she has had fertility problems or not.
graphite · 61-69, M
Another thing: women waiting until their 30s and 40s to get married are going to find themselves competing for high-value men with much younger 20somethings, where fertility is not likely to be a problem. It is what it is.
bijouxbroussard · F
Roundandroundwego · 61-69
Chances of making teen pregnancy a disease?
The conservatives win. No society,. Buy kids if you can afford them
The conservatives win. No society,. Buy kids if you can afford them
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@Roundandroundwego I dont understand what you mean by this.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Its not unheard of at all but it is much harder and sadly is just not possible for many who try.
Many celebrities that you see having children over 40 have reproductive help.
If you have had children previously in life studies have shown that you are also more likely to remain furtile into older ages. They are unsure why this has any effect.
For a woman over 40 there is only a 5% chance each month that she will get pregnant ( if she is trying at the right times).
Many celebrities that you see having children over 40 have reproductive help.
If you have had children previously in life studies have shown that you are also more likely to remain furtile into older ages. They are unsure why this has any effect.
For a woman over 40 there is only a 5% chance each month that she will get pregnant ( if she is trying at the right times).
UpForItNow · 22-25, F