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Pre teen boys are frustrating

My son is turning 13 in February and he's been awful lately. I asked him to run the trash out and he gave me the biggest eyeroll, sighed and made a show out of it. I told him that wasn't necessary which made him upset. Today i asked for some help in the kitchen and he was dramatic again. All he does is sit on his phone and ignore everyone. I know if I take his phone away that will be world war 3. He also mutters under his breath that im annoying or lazy too

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MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Be careful picking up his socks.😐

awhitedot · 46-50, M

Mine went through the same stage. They do grow out of it. Not that you asked for advice but stick to your guns and don’t give in. They are trying to see how much they can get away with and will keep pushing. Don’t be afraid of WW3. It’s the only way they will learn and respect your authority.

SW-User

If he thinks you're being annoying and lazy congratulate yourself. It means you're doing everything absolutely right and you're a fab Mum. He will know how to do things, be self sufficient, responsible and capable. 🙂

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

If he gets too much just change the Wifi password till his attitude improves

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

Take the phone away and tell him he will get it back after his chores are done

nevergiveup · M

I had 4 kids. The best i can say is stick to your guns and dont let him run everything.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

It’s normal. It gets better

Wiseacre · F

Don't worry, this is normal, just a phase..

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

🥺 This reminds me of... me (back in the day).

lovebeingasissy

II bet your a spoil brat now living off your parents.@MarkPaul

LookingIn · M

The brain goes through a major overhaul/rewiring during adolescence. There’s also a cascade of sex hormones, a change in melatonin transcription and a dramatically increased sensitivity to stress.
Exercise (competitive or not) in small peer groups is shown to be the best way to reduce stress.

justanothername · 51-55, M

My nephew is also like that.

lovebeingasissy

Shut off his phone line and tell him he has to pay for the phone line by helping you around the house.The money he earns by helping you will be put toward he's phone line.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@lovebeingasissy This is the worst advice I have heard yet... and the advice here is pretty bad and way off the mark.

smiler2012 · 56-60

{@blackdiamond ] the boy needs to realize there is no free meal ticket and needs too help around the house , generally pull his weight and take a bit of responsibility in the day to day running of the home

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

Inthink i kept my kid too busy with activities to act up. Karate, scouts, violin , and confirmation. We packed in a few others but it got to be too much. Computer came later but he didnt have a cell phone.

CommandLine · 56-60, M

I think all pre teen boys are like this.
What until he gets older.
My mother asked my brother to put the rubbish out one day and he slung her over his shoulder and took her outside.

pride49 · 31-35, M

@CommandLine lol rubbish..you must be british

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

Yes I get that still! Told my daughter to take out the recycles, after much eye rolling and cupboard slaming she did it. Not to mentioned I've done it the last 5 times even if its her job.

GerOttman · 61-69, M

I think the one thing I most wanted from my parents at that age was something approaching respect. Sometimes the best way to learn a behavior is by observing it it others.

antonioioio · 70-79, M

He is different to anyone else; he needs to be taught the hard facts of life so that he treats the who love and care right

HootyTheNightOwl

Oh... he's a big boy now, eh???

Maybe mum should take a day or two off doing what she does for him and see how he copes without help...

iamelijah · 26-30, M

Just take his phone. Let him do chores then he can have his phone back.

LookingIn · M

Yeah … there’s a whole load of reasons why that’s a short term measure that actually makes things worse @iamelijah

iamelijah · 26-30, M

@LookingIn Why it could be worst? Never mind. Teenage rebellion, right. Just let him be irresponsible.

LookingIn · M

Because you’re dealing with the response of the limbic system and so all you’ll likely do is escalate things. Better to let things cool and then discuss it when they’re in a more receptive frame of mind @iamelijah