Are you obligated to help your parents even if they were never there for you?

Oh they'll be around to buddy up and ask for favors I'm sure. I've seen this pattern for over 60 years, the ones who don't want to help their children are quick to befriend their adult children when they think they can get something from them.

I wouldn't feel so, no. I mean, if your dad wanted help drying out, maybe ... maybe not, too.

THis doesnt describe my parents, but fits very closely onto at least 3 of my younger (25ish) friends & their parents :(

No. You’re more obligated to take care of yourself and do what you feel like is best for you. Anyone who has been raised by abusive or narcissistic parents can empathize and understand the dilemma!

No matter how hard life goes I always support my parents. Because at then end after many years of loneliness. They are the one who asks me about how I am and how I am doing or daily things.

My mother was physically abusive and mentally cruel. Did her best to destroy my self esteem to puff up her own...but I made sure she had the very best of care when it was time for her to go to assisted living. I think that we all want to love our parents, and even if they are horrid, and it is more love/hate, we are obligated to them for giving us life.

That's still 19 years of care though.
Math doesn't check out.

I think each case is unique and should be decided on individually.

Hell no. Let them rot

Did they feed you and provide shelter for you your first 19 years? why did they ask you to move out? They are your parents, forgive them and be an adult.

No?

No you're not . Tough shit for them imo

But its nice if you do

When they were alive, yeah.