Are you obligated to help your parents even if they were never there for you?

@cherokeepatti exactly so

@cherokeepatti true story.....at a certain point you just get sick of it

@WildwoodFlower I'm sure it'll happen with the boy I'm raising, his parents are too busy being druggies to ever think of helping him in any way, but when he turns 18 or graduates high school or some other marker of adult-hood happens they'll be right there to buddy up to him after not taking responsibility for his life or well-being.

@cherokeepatti exactely! Are we then obligated to support them even whem they didnt do anything for us? Sure they gave ua life, but thats where parenting begins, not end

@WildwoodFlower No and everything you do for them is for nought. They are users, too narcissistic to help anyone but themselves.

@cherokeepatti the thing is ..My dad is being operated next month...i just dont feel the need to help him..not after everything i have been through becaue of him and my mother....alcohol was more important ..awhen i asked for help he didnt give it. He wanted to be alone..in his bars ..drinking...now hes getting old ...al of a sudden he asks me if ill be there....i just dont feel the need to be there but feel guilty for not having the need

@WildwoodFlower You can be there for you own conscience's sake and maybe he'll reward you by revealing exactly why he was drinking so much. My father was violent & sadistic, he died living in a house of druggies who were using him for his retirement $ only giving him enough to barely live on. When he died they abandoned his body in the morgue and didn't bother to have him buried.

@cherokeepatti i will be there...ill definetly visit him and drop by....but thats it....sorry to hear that... :(

@WildwoodFlower Mine murdered my mother (among a long list of other crimes) and lived off a widower's check so I felt no obligation to him, he was destructive as hell even in his old age.

@cherokeepatti wow i can imagine you dont feel obligation to him ...hope u healed

@WildwoodFlower I have but the memories will always linger.

@cherokeepatti i understand. Same here

@WildwoodFlower he was too narcissistic to ever own up to anything he did saying he didn't remember doing it. You can only use that excuse so many times before it gets old. Seems to have lost his soul if he couldn't remember that much of his life, reminding me of the movie Angel Heart.

@cherokeepatti same with my parents and sisster..nothing is ever their fault.

@WildwoodFlower classic