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I am scared to enter relationship again

Most of men in my life abused me. I am not able to feel positive about men.

And even if i do find a partner who won't abuse me. I am scared if find a good partner, he might start disliking me, won't like me or hate me or we would break up with me
HobNoblin · 36-40, M
Why bother with men at all? There are so many things to do in life beside relationships.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@HobNoblin I want a partner.... but can't have any. I never been in long-term relationship. I am sad that i am not able to have a relationship which is a part of life
HobNoblin · 36-40, M
@sahi81 Me either just because I know too much about how the whole thing works. It's really all about reproduction, not a relationship. Friendship is pure, your friends with someone because you actually like them. Lovers are different, its based on sexual attraction and the actual goal is reproduction and species survival. The individual is often forfeit.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@HobNoblin i can't stay with my friends in same home 😅. A partner will give me more time and energy of his life
dale74 · M
I wish you the best of luck on finding a life partner but don't look in a club don't look at a bar don't look at frat guys in college that are always at the party scene. Look for someone that's smart and intelligent look for someone who studying to make themselves the best possible person out there that they can be.
dale74 · M
@sahi81 I didn't have the guts to ask a woman for sex. First time I had sex I was in a college dorm room studying and the girl I was studying with said your girlfriend needs to get you a blowjob I told her I didn't have a girlfriend she said we'll just ask some girl and I said jokingly okay why don't you give me a blowjob. And she was like okay took one look and she's like no I want you to fuck me. And that's how I lost my virginity. And I'm still friends with her we never dated. I wanted to date her and get married she always told me she didn't want that.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@dale74 US girls seem to be very open.... 😅
I live in India, we r very sexually repressed
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@dale74 yes, looking at right places is important to find someone compatible
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
You have had bad experiences, and that's terrible. Before you go searching for a relationship, though, you might try working on loving yourself and realizing your own value as a person. Learn to enjoy your own company, to have the confidence to put yourself out there and to tell people who don't value you to fuck all the way off. You are worthy of being loved and valued, but you have to realize that yourself first.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@DunningKruger yes, sometimes i feel like i don't deserve a good person. Maybe bcuz i don't love myself
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@sahi81 That's a vicious spiral in which you've been caught. Men treat you bad, which makes you believe you don't deserve better, which leads you to men who treat you badly because you don't believe you deserve better. But you do. You deserve to be loved and valued, and you don't need to have anyone in your life who doesn't love and value you. You can walk away from them, not get involved with them in the first place. You can do better.
Browneyesarebest79 · 41-45, F
It's so difficult to move past the baggage. We tend to be attracted to the same people over and over. It would be best to seek out therapy or support group to help you work through that.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@Browneyesarebest79 I tried counselling only till now and near me there seem to be no good therapists.... i need to seach more. Thx, i will try support groups
Shybutwilling2 · 61-69
You must heal before tryibg for a relationship
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@Shybutwilling2 now u have good partner and stable relationship?
Shybutwilling2 · 61-69
@sahi81 i did go on to have another relationship. It was better
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@Shybutwilling2 ic. as u wish
Missbirdie1986 · 36-40, F
You can’t be afraid you just have to talk to someone, and explain this to a therapist or a friend, and then you can heal
QuietEd2019 · 31-35, M
What’s there to dislike about you though you’re lovely just have had bad experiences with men and abuse unfortunately 😔 you’re great 🫂🫂🫂
MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
You need to take your time, now probably isn't the time to start a new relationship.
deadteddy · 26-30, F
It’s best to stay alone for a while until you heal all those wounds
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
Don't stress I'm 56 and have had bad experiences with women so I'm very frightened to try dating again. There's nothing wrong with being single and not having relationships if that's what works for you.

Remember sex/intimacy/relationships are such a small aspect of life that feeling like you're missing out isn't really something you need to seriously worry about.
Why would he start disliking you?
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@littlepuppywantanewlife i struggle with anger, anxiety, self-discipline ( i often end up not living up to my words even when my intentions are good) and i sometimes made stupid mistakes due to my carelessness
@sahi81 can you elaborate me inbox?
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
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