I am scared to enter relationship again

Most of men in my life abused me. I am not able to feel positive about men.

And even if i do find a partner who won't abuse me. I am scared if find a good partner, he might start disliking me, won't like me or hate me or we would break up with me

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

You have had bad experiences, and that's terrible. Before you go searching for a relationship, though, you might try working on loving yourself and realizing your own value as a person. Learn to enjoy your own company, to have the confidence to put yourself out there and to tell people who don't value you to fuck all the way off. You are worthy of being loved and valued, but you have to realize that yourself first.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@DunningKruger yes, sometimes i feel like i don't deserve a good person. Maybe bcuz i don't love myself

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@sahi81 That's a vicious spiral in which you've been caught. Men treat you bad, which makes you believe you don't deserve better, which leads you to men who treat you badly because you don't believe you deserve better. But you do. You deserve to be loved and valued, and you don't need to have anyone in your life who doesn't love and value you. You can walk away from them, not get involved with them in the first place. You can do better.

dominateofyou · 61-69, M

@sahi81 you must love yourself first before you can love others concentrate on the good things about your self that you like and talk to other self assured women .