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Y’all need to discipline your kids 🥲

Went to the park today, a girl that was 5 or 6 was standing on the top of the slide and wouldn’t let other kids on it. The girls’ parents were like, “get down, you aren’t supposed to stand up there. Let other kids go down it.” And the little girl, with the most attitude said “nope!” … then 10 minutes later she was standing on the picnic table, and jumping from one table to the next and the parents tried getting her to quit it and put on her shoes because they were leaving and again, she said “nope, don’t tell me what to do” 😅😅😅😅
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
And we wonder why the youth doesn't respect anyone or anything these days.
@Nitedoc amen some one said it yess
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@Nitedoc I think there have always been kids like this. That's why all those "rebellious teenager" movies were so popular in the 1950's.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@DrWatson Yes but it seems there are more now than in the past.
Too many " Nope" and " Don't tell me what to do" were shrugged off and allowed until the kid grew horns and figured out she's the one who calls the shots. Unfortunately, we've often seen that bullies and criminals have that same pattern of behavior at a young age. Imagine how many crimes and broken lives can be avoided by good parenting and seeking professional help for mentally/emotionally unstable children.
@SDChris71 I would teach my child as soon as she can comprehend words that certain bad behaviors will not be tolerated for there will be disciplinary consequences. You teach your child from a very early age the concept of empathy and companionship. Bratty behavior is not natural but created.
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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
They should have taken that brat home
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@SDChris71 no. I’ve never had to spank my kids. I take their privileges away.
SDChris71 · 51-55, M
@Jenny1234 Got you.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@SDChris71 time outs were given when they were small then privileges taken away as they got older
SDChris71 · 51-55, M
Oh that would have gotten a warning first after that she be taken to the car and spanked properly for her attitude at the park.
A young child, perhaps an only child, needs to learn safe social skills. This kid, in some sense, got away with a variety of things. I doubt that these behaviors are useful to her or genuinely help her play with other kids. She needs to practice doing what she is told and doing things around other kids that will not enrage them. She is lucky no one challenged her. That might have caused a very different ending.

I suspect that the home situation is much more complicated than in appears. Parents probably have other issues than how to teach her to play well with other kids. If she has the balance and skill to stand at the top of a slide, she may have been way too old for the slide. Some aspects of her behavior seem really messed up yet almost requiring gymnastics training.. Jumping barefoot from picnic table to picnic table is not easy and neither is standing up at the top of a slide. In all probability she was way too old for the event. Teaching cooperation and the ability to do things that are boring are never easy. Spanking for obvious disobedience is just the beginning. "Nope!" is not a good response ever to parental orders. This young woman needs to learn many skills but she is also talented. Having balance and no fear of heights suggest serious potential! I hope her parents do better by her. If they don't, her peers will!
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
If I tried that with my mom I would have gotten spanked
RachelC · 22-25, F
@smileylovesgaming same. So would my daughter.
MrDavidson · M
@RachelC Definitely a sore bottom for her.
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JT123 · M
I would have got my butt beat for that!
SDChris71 · 51-55, M
@JT123 Would you have gotten spanked on the spot, in the car or back at home?
JT123 · M
@SDChris71 Probably all three lol
SDChris71 · 51-55, M
@JT123 Ouch!
In all honesty they should have shown her who was the boss right then and there so the public would know!

That’s what’s wrong with society today.
My kids know what would happen when they got home if they did that so as a result they don't act that way. It's really not complicated.
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chubbysteve99 · 51-55, M
sounds like she needed a red bottom
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
That little bratty girl needs some old school attitude adjustment. In a old fashioned household, her hide wouldn't be sitting down for at least a week. Somewhere down the road, kids stopped showing respect to parents and others around them.
JestAJester · 31-35, M
Guess Im more traditional, had I kids God forbid, and they acted up I pull them aside and give them one warning to straighten up. If they acted up they get a swat on the behind, just enough to scare them and sting a little bit. Of course swatting isn't the only way to punish a child. Each kid is different, you gotta do something they truly hate, thats enough of an incentive to prevent them from doing it again. Sometimes just a verbal threat from my mom was enough to get me to act right. Like putting soap in my mouth, god that was nasty and hated it more than spankings.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@JestAJester You are exactly right. Every kid is different and responds differently. Mom usually knows which button to push when she needs to apply a little discipline.
RachelC · 22-25, F
@JestAJester soap was nasty. Also hated that!!!
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@RachelC i remember once she did it to me when i was 8 and it made me sick. So she never did it again. Usually took my games away or made me do chores
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
Well you know who wears the pants in that family
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@cherokeepatti That's the problem.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@cherokeepatti Yep! The kid. ☹️
tiggerandariel13 · 41-45, MVIP
@ RachelC I have 8-year-old twin daughters and a 7-year-old daughter my 17-year-old daughter took them to the park and 2 boys wouldn't get off the swings cause my girls wanted to swing my 17-year-old told them you need to let other kids use the swings they told my 17-year-old to mid her own business I told the boys you2 were disrespectful to my daughter
Justme264 · 70-79, M
I totally agree - a firm hand is needed more and more
The general consensus here is clearly that in this situation, there should have been pushback from somewhere. I have seen wrestling at the top of a slide. I understand that posters here all feel that somehow this is a case where spanking would help. I am not so sure.

Another often cited hypothetical in support of spanking is street crossing behavior. Again I have my doubts. Obviously safe crossings are mission critical and nothing is more important. I agree but things are never simple. The goal is rarely to avoid ALL street crossings but rather to avoid all unassisted crossings. So, immediately the plot thickens. My sense is that almost always there are educationally better ways to teach and to develop the relevant skills.

Should spanking alternatives have been used in the case inspiring this thread? If possible, yes. But if patience, time, etc. were not present in abundance, then a simple spanking or spanking might have been appropriate.

What I don't really agree with is the view that this situation called for a hard or high intensity spanking. These should be rare and not used in haste. Several of the comments refer to the recommended spanking occurring at home or off-site from the slide. That would be essential. Is this situation one where all the features of a hard spanking are appropriate? Feeling it afterwards, having a "torn up" bottom, getting it with the belt or getting a hand spanking that was as firm as a belt spanking, ... This seemed bratty but kind of normal and not worthy of lifelong memorability.
MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F
My sisters and I never behaved like that when we were kids. What's the matter with people these days?
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@MaryDreamilton Kids are often a reflection of their parents. Parents acting bad leads kids to act bad. IMHO.
MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F
@Nitedoc I've heard people say that spanking is bad parenting. What do you think?
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@MaryDreamilton No not at all. Spanking in moderation can be very beneficial.
“nope, don’t tell me what to do”

If I said that to my dad, I wouldn't be able to sit for a week.
DADDYDEAN · 61-69, M
@BohemianBoo AMEN to THAT!
RachelC · 22-25, F
SDChris71 · 51-55, M
@RachelC Yeap my mom would spanked my bare bottom really good for that behavior
ABCDEF7 · M
nope, don’t tell me what to do

I guess, she learnt that from her parents, when they were communicating/fighting among themselves.

Kids don't do what you tell them to do, they do what they see, just like monkeys.
MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F
@ABCDEF7 That's a good video.
ABCDEF7 · M
@MaryDreamilton Good parents never fight or shout at anyone in front of their kids.
@ABCDEF7 yep.. children live what they learn.
1olderguy20 · 61-69, M
I bet you would not of gotten away w that growing up
MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F
brats.. brats everywhere
Primnproper · 56-60, F
If I had a child there, I’d ask the parent to remove her from the slide. 😁
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
Sounds like she might have been on a sugar high . .
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
She needs her attitude adjusted minimum daily!
Convivial · 26-30, F
Not good....
Musicman · 61-69, M
My dad would have worn my butt out with his belt then made me sit in the car while everyone else had a good time.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@RachelC Times have definitely changed haven't they. ☹️
RachelC · 22-25, F
@Musicman unfortunately. I’m raising my kids different. She knows better.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@RachelC Good for you! I am happy to hear that.
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SDChris71 · 51-55, M
@DADDYDEAN Amen On that
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Musicman · 61-69, M
@4meAndyou That was a win for you and a lose for mom.
4meAndyou · F
@Musicman The THREAT of him being angry was enough to scare me, usually.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@4meAndyou Should we ask what happened when he did get angry?
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