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Have you ever snapped when irritated?

But just to make this even better, snapped at a family member with serious health issues?

I feel terrible..my sister has had seven years of awful debilitating pain and twitching in both legs. Most doctors do not believe it's diabetes related as neuropathy is typically burning, tingling etc. she's had a very brittle case of diabetes type 1 for 26 years 😟
And now on top of the awful undiagnosed pain in legs, she's developed horrible neuropathy in her feet. She can barely walk, and it's numb daily, it's just a hell for her. She vents and talks about it daily, and for two years I've not said much when it gets emotionally too much for me. We talk about it around the clock, daily. And I just snapped and yelled, "I know you have pain I know!!"

Yes it was a human reaction to occasionally be exhausted from talking about endless health issues, but she's the one DEALING with it. I just felt SO BAD that I said that. She's beyond strong, beyond human ..what she deals with is truly unbelievable. I buy her little care packages sometimes but I wish I didn't snap.
She's the most wonderful person I've ever known. Anyway I just had to vent for a few.
I'm praying she gets some real relief soon or help.
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Yes. Happens a lot.

Now, at people? Those I care about? Those I love? Happens far less often, and I don't like it when it happens, no matter the circumstance.

Even the one time my own mother was very wrong about something and I had aggressively corrected her... (she hadn't crossed that line since but I still don't like how I felt later-I don't like emotional anger/rage) 😖

Addendum: As for your situation...
May the Divines guide you and your sister...
Cigarguy · M
It's because you are human. We've all done. It's hard to see a loved one in so much pain knowing there isn't anything you can do to help her. It doesn't make you bad in any way. We can't all be prefect 100% of the time.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Cigarguy Thanks Cigar... sometimes it feels like a weight crashing on me. And I can't change anything for her, yes.. thank you 🪻
Cigarguy · M
@Coralmist I know you're going through a lot. You just gotta take 5 minutes or more for yourself and let all the stress out. Listen to your favorite song, go for a walk, scream into your pillow. Find a support group for caregivers or even a online group. Everybody keeps telling me that I have to take care of myself first and then everybody else.
Yes, I have…and felt guilty about it. But as others have said, we’re all human. Your sister’s illness is not your fault. My sister’s schizophrenia isn’t mine. My sister is always saying she doesn’t want to be treated "differently", so I don’t, and when she’s been wrong, I’ve called her on it, like I would anyone else.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@bijouxbroussard That's true, we are human and make mistakes or are not perfect robots filled with rainbows 24/7. I still felt badly. Because it's horrible every day for her. She says weekly she wishes she'd die in her sleep😟. So it truly pangs me when I get irritated because I never ever want to. But it's true, there's only so much mentally, daily we can handle.
How long has she had schizophrenia? Do meds help?
@Coralmist When she was away at college she first began having problems and was subsequently diagnosed. Meds do work to some extent, but they have to updated periodically because of side effects.
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
My parents snapped at me and got irritable when I was rehabbing after surgery.

Initially, they would grab things I could not bend down to reach (I used a walker at the time).

Towards the end, though, they said pick it up yourself! Then one day they said they are done, they cannot stand it here, and they are going home. Yet by then I was off the walker and could drive. Enough to survive.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@JoyfulSilence It must have been a trying time to say the least. 😟
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
@Coralmist

I was so glad to be alone again. They stayed up late and watched annoying TV shows which I could hear, and kept me awake. Then they slept most of the morning while I was awake and bored.

And they forced me to go on walks, with my walker. I just wanted to sleep!
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
It’s okay! Don’t beat yourself up! I can’t even imagine the stress you go through. You take such good care of her. I’m sure she understands.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Jenny1234 Ty my friend 🌹
chuck7882 · 61-69, M
We're all human and I know I have snapped at someone when I shouldnt have. We have to learn to apologize and move on
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I have a friend who suffers from considerable mental illness and is often combative. Let me tell you that it's no picnic, and every now and then I return fire. We're not perfect.
Katie01 · F
I definitely have yes. I've been in a few very abusive relationships where I was the abusive one
smiler2012 · 61-69
@Coralmist🤔can understand why you snapped and at least you have a sense of guilt for what you did
It happens. We're not perfect but what matters is that you feel bad about it.

Forgive yourself.
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
Many is the time where I've snapped out of frustration or irritation.
Banksy83 · 41-45, M
We are all human yes.
We all have mental issues. It’s not a free pass to behave intolerably.
every single day.. I feel like a rubbed out eraser
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dale74 · M
Stepped my fingers at a little kid. He instantly stopped. Turned around, set down and became a little angel
(((((HUGS))))) I am so very sorry, has she tried the diuretics yet?
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@NativePortlander1970 She's wondering, having such labile sugars/diabetes, if Lasix lowers blood sugar...I don't think it does. And if it's only moderate edema can she still take the Lasix? And how long, daily? And, are there potassium pills she could take or just do Propel? She can't count on potatoes or bananas, they raise her sugars.
@Coralmist Lasix does lower potassium and to take prescription potassium if she cannot eat potatoes or bananas
@Coralmist As for lowering sugars, I am not sure of that, her dr should have prescribed potassium as well, demand it.

 
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