You're not overreacting. I've been in a relatively similar situation and I've known of others who've had to live within a situation they were unable to change due to the people involved.

It makes a person miserable and even though you're putting on a brave face, your boyfriend should recognise your righteous upset, put his daughters straight, and make it known that HE is angry with them, demand apologies and let them know in no uncertain terms that it won't be tolerated in the future.

The problem is, a father with two daughters. They've got him wrapped around their little fingers. The fact is that it is HIS responsibility to sort this out. You are not at fault, so why should you suffer? If he's not prepared to man up and deal with his daughters' rude behaviour, he is devaluing you, and therefore, the importance of your relationship. In which case, he's not good enough for you. Harsh but true.

If he continues to ignore this, it allows them to escalate their bad behaviour, as they're obviously pushing boundaries, banking on your relationship cracking before he steps up and puts them in their place. The remaining options available to you are:-

1) Put your foot down, ultimatum style, If boyfriend doesn't deal with it...(A following threat has to be inferred and followed through if he doesn't) ...relationship is over. Ideally, you would have to be confident enough in your relationship to use this bomb tactic.

2) Sever the relationship and get on with your life. It's always messy to one degree or another but if things don't change, it's the sensible option.

There is also your son to consider. His well being and respect for you are to be considered paramount and I'm sure he would rather you stand tall and make a decision than let slide the unchecked disrespect of your boyfriend's badly behaved daughters.

Also, if your stature appears intimidating to others, it is the 'others' perception of you that allows them to be intimidated. The fault does not lie with you. You are six feet tall. Stand proud and do not slump or do the 'goofy thing', diminishing yourself by pandering to the whims of others. It presents visually as having low self confidence and people will use it to take advantage of your good nature. You will know when and where you can relax and have fun. Otherwise, if you have business to deal with or people who are undeserving of your concern for their feelings, stand tall, be you, be six feet tall and tell them straight exactly as it is.

There is, on occasion, a necessity to intimidate as a useful defence mechanism. Otherwise, standing straight, looking people in the eye, clearly and firmly stating your wishes in an even tone and without apology is assertiveness. There are clear differences between assertion and aggression. Standing straight aids a feeling of self confidence. To intimidate is to deliberately instil fear in others to leverage a desired outcome and I really don't think you do that.

Sorry this has been long. It was quite a post to address. I have maybe overdone it but hopefully, it will be of some help.

Ps. Regarding your appearance...I've seen your photo and you look bloody great! Take no notice of anyone who says otherwise. Good luck!

My daughters are well over 6 feet tall. We're all over 6 feet tall out 11. The other half, me and 9 kids. There is only 3 that are just under 6 feet tall

Turn that negative into a positive. That will steal their power from their name calling.

I know you don't like it. But one one way is use "Oversize Cow" like a professional wrestling name and play fight with kids with it.

It takes the power of the name away and their power of hurting you. That's a example of turning a negative into a positive.

It is your boyfriend's responsibility to ensure his children are treating you with respect and kindness. I am divorced and wouldn't ever let my kids adult, teenage or younger treat anyone I was dating with anything less than respect, kidness, dignity and compassion.

Talk to your boyfriend and let him know you will not tolerate any further verbal disrespect from his children or anyone else. You don't deserve it and have treated his kids with nothing but respect and kindness.

The kids should learn never to comment on anyones body no matter who they are - child or adult. Coping with loss or not. Period. If they continue this, maybe have your bf have a chat with them. If they are young enough, there is a really good book called have you filled a bucket today? That could open the lines of discussion about appropriate and kind comments (bucket filler) vs angry rude or inappropriate comments (bucket spiller). Connect it to how you feel. Just cause they have a hard time coping doesn't excuse their abusive behaviour and you don’t have to tolerate it. You teach others - including your bf- how to treat you by what you tolerate. In fact if your presence is so distressing to them to the point they absolutely cannot comport themselves in a respectful way, then kindly see yourself out for their benefit and yours. It’s not fair. Plus apples don’t fall far from the tree, and if your bf permits this level of disrespect, this behaviour is probably festering in the tree too. 🚩

My two cents, based on what I have seen with friends of mine: people tend to underestimate the effects of divorce on children, even older ones.

It sounds as if these girls are still hurting from their mom and dad's breakup, in which case they will be dead-set on disliking anyone he dates.

If that's the case, then your size is not really the main issue. If they are making fun of your height, that just happens to be what they are seizing on in your case. If it were a different woman, they would be focusing on something else. I understand that those particular kinds of taunts hurt especially since you have felt self conscious about your appearance even before you met these two. But I am betting that what they say is not really the crux of what they feel.

For whatever reason, taller women are often big teddy bears. Unlike tall men who like to throw their weight around.

Anyways...

Now If the girls have been getting away with this for a year now, things are not likely to change.
Especially with immature teenagers who cannot be reasoned with. You have to think about whether or not you really want to deal with this. Rude teenagers typically do not change until the real world has kicked them in the backside a few times.
But when we have to deal with someone who is rude constantly, how does one deal with that?

People get conditioned to interact with others a certain way. That is why boundaries and such need to be established early on.

Now with them saying you are overdressed, I assume you tend to dress nice or more business-like. Some people are intimidated by sharp dressers. I tend to "over dress" and a few people didn't like it. Tough. We do not want to look like slobs. They are going to have to get over it.

People talk about height, but I believe it is shape, not really size, that makes someone look good or not.

I think its important to draw a line in between what can be said and what cannot.Clearly ,they’re feeling insecure when you’re around their dad .With time and patience ,these could be resolved.
Try being patient ,with them if you love your bf .

My opinion is your boyfriend needs to be more respectful of You and take appropriate correcective action with his daughters...he needs to step up. It amounts to nothing more than bullying by them toward you....which neither he nor you should stand for. If he's not respectful of your feelings then it may be time to move on. It shouldnt have happened even once much less over and over again.

I would tell him to tell them to lose that attitude or he will lose you!!!!

Don’t give the ultimatum of they go or you go, since they are his blood daughters and f’d up in the head!

He needs to go off on them though till they break and come crawling to you with an apology!

No one should endure that abuse!
I know he wouldn’t want to lose you, as you are a true catch and plus sized with love!!!!!💗

I’m sorry that they call you that, it is a funny name, but I get that it must be a bit hard to deal with.

Leave the relationship OR don’t be around them until you are respected… at least while in person with them as it becomes a point where YOU are responsible for defending your own self.

Sorry for your situation but stand up for your self !!! Good Luck

Eh i׳ve been married 20 years and never even met my 6 hateful step kids 😏

Trying to be more understanding now tho.. when i was younger i was more than a bit hateful too i guess 😏 probably just kids being defensive? Idk 😳

It sucks when your mate doesn't come to your defense and put them in line but such is life *shrugs*

Thats a mean response and their father should tell them so, they dont have to like you or accept you but they should be respectful!

clearly he's defending his daughters.
He's not going to change.
I would think about moving on.

i am sure i am called names behind my back. i found out after my daughter passed away that her and my sister used to make fun of me. Never to my face though because they knew the CASH COW would tell them to F themselves. and no you are not overreacting. they are disrespectful

You write about your the ones that are rude and if you're powerful, like you say, do something about it....

theyre children and they need to be taught better manners. i's suggesttelling them very matter of factly that theyre being very unkind an dthey ought to be ashamed of themselves for it. it probably wont stop them but at least you would have said something in your defense. but also try to be nice to them after like they never said anything mean. this will show them that theyre taunting isnt having an effect so hopefully wont reinforce their behavior. theyre dumb emotionally distraught kids. im sure the divorce was very painful. if they see that youre nice to them maybe theyll eventually apologize and start to like you.

much love to you doll 🫶🏽🤍

No, your feelings are normal. His daughters are acting out and he has to tell them that the future is his choice, not theirs!

No, you are not and boyfriend should have a talk with his girls.
They keep it up because they know there are no conquences for their behavior

Might be time to move on
Respect is respect

yea, and when you feel insecure about being larger than other women, in size, you do anything in your might (anger) to belittle the other women who are not insecure, at least about their figure.

And that gives you some kind of self-validation. Bravo.

You are not overreacting at all. Give them a shut up call for once.

Youre overreacting

Speaking from experience, I was with a woman for over nine years that had a teenage son who had a teenage gf of his own. Leave, it will not get better. All parents think their kids are perfect little angels that do no wrong, that what they do and say are just harmless little pranks or jokes, they're not. Save your sanity and years of fights and conflict, it's better to rip the bandage off now and get it over with than it get worse further in, and it will get worse.

Keel hauling solves most rude people...

Screw them!

Moooo