How would you feel…

I’ve heard of people changing after being with them for decades so you’re not alone in that. I can only imagine, but I think I would feel… maybe grateful. Marriage isn’t necessary. So we dodged a bullet there. Maybe a little sad that their reason was not loving me, but I don’t need anyone’s love anyways so I’d be okay. Probably concerned for them more than anything.

I mean this with no disrespect, but just stating my personal feelings:

I wouldn’t have stayed for ten years and had three children until he’d "put a ring on it". 🥺

I would believe him as hard as that is.
I would feel awful.
I would try to talk to him and make plans for separation and how we will handle visitation/custody.
I would not stay with him, as that would only hurt more as the years went by.

I'd stop focusing on the other person and start living my life and being the best version of myself I could be.

I'd feel like getting free. I don't think I could make myself stay. I'm not so much into marriage but that part of the sentence: "don't love you enough" is enough for me to lose all interest.

I would feel very hurt. But I would also tell myself that that’s okay bc it just means the right person is still out there waiting for me to find them, and I can’t find them feeling too down. So I’d find things that made me happy, so then therefore I can find them

I would say "That's ok. We are already married .. just that we are not wedded officially. And there is no need for you to love me, as we have already made 3 children. So just go and register the marriage. No need any wedding"

I think what's more important is that they remain loyal and devoted to you. Marriages are easily broken, at times just symbolizing a feign union. But in your case, the love isn't there.

It would only take me a New York minute to leave them. If you're good enough to have kids with, but you're not good enough to marry, that's a real problem. That does not describe love.

Heartbroken
Furious

bruh... one problem in today's dating world is that people think having a child is less of a commitment than marriage (quoted from a youtube comment)

Shocked.

Betrayed

Find someone who does love you enough to want to marry you.

Leave them, so you can both find the love you deserve.

Single.

I'd feel like it was quite the gut-punch.

Id be confused as to what they believe love is lol, if not having 3 children and staying loyal for 10 years 😂

I would run for the hills

4th and long . . .

That that is not a person worthy of any more of my time.

give them those children and move on!!

I was with my late ex fiancee for nine years and three months. About a year before she died she confessed to me that she deceived me to be with her, she said her intention was to make another guy jealous enough to leave his common law wife of 10 years and their kid to be with her, not even her sons knew this.