How would you feel…

I’ve heard of people changing after being with them for decades so you’re not alone in that. I can only imagine, but I think I would feel… maybe grateful. Marriage isn’t necessary. So we dodged a bullet there. Maybe a little sad that their reason was not loving me, but I don’t need anyone’s love anyways so I’d be okay. Probably concerned for them more than anything.

I mean this with no disrespect, but just stating my personal feelings:

I wouldn’t have stayed for ten years and had three children until he’d "put a ring on it". 🥺

I'd stop focusing on the other person and start living my life and being the best version of myself I could be.

I'd feel like getting free. I don't think I could make myself stay. I'm not so much into marriage but that part of the sentence: "don't love you enough" is enough for me to lose all interest.

I would say "That's ok. We are already married .. just that we are not wedded officially. And there is no need for you to love me, as we have already made 3 children. So just go and register the marriage. No need any wedding"

I think what's more important is that they remain loyal and devoted to you. Marriages are easily broken, at times just symbolizing a feign union. But in your case, the love isn't there.

It would only take me a New York minute to leave them. If you're good enough to have kids with, but you're not good enough to marry, that's a real problem. That does not describe love.

Heartbroken
Furious

bruh... one problem in today's dating world is that people think having a child is less of a commitment than marriage (quoted from a youtube comment)

Shocked.

Betrayed

Leave them, so you can both find the love you deserve.

Single.

I'd feel like it was quite the gut-punch.

Find someone who does love you enough to want to marry you.

I would run for the hills

Id be confused as to what they believe love is lol, if not having 3 children and staying loyal for 10 years 😂

4th and long . . .

give them those children and move on!!

Is that some kind of joke

I was with my late ex fiancee for nine years and three months. About a year before she died she confessed to me that she deceived me to be with her, she said her intention was to make another guy jealous enough to leave his common law wife of 10 years and their kid to be with her, not even her sons knew this.