Having taken care of both parents I don't recommend the health care system.

They only care about the money.

With my father he had to because of morphine pump. Fortunately it was only a week.

With mom I had no options. Neither she nor I want her to go, however I was out voted in the decision. Three of my elder siblings didn't believe I could handle it.

They were wrong. I had been handling it already for a year.

Two weeks later mom passed away.

That's how bad the health care system is. Mom begged with all of us no not put her in hospice. She could have easily lasted a few months more with me, if not another year.

If they are elderly, having offered all the help you can and taken time to explain, if you are not getting cooperation, you have two options. First, leave them to get on with it their way, having told them you wont help them do things their way. Its their life after all and if they want to use their exit strategy, its their choice.. Second. Hand them over to the system to have their care managed by professionals in the aged care system. Neither is a good choice..But thats all there is that wont drag you down with them. Trust me. I know..😷

Caring for an elderly loved one often feels like the roles have reversed — we become the parent, and they become like our children. Their stubbornness can sometimes harm their health, but patience, gentleness, and love go a long way. Just like with kids, we guide them firmly yet tenderly, always protecting their dignity while giving them the care they need.

When you have a suggestion as to how to improve their (and your) life, present it in such a way that makes them feel it's their idea.



Source: my gmaw is a literal child that way

Its thier life, just learn to love them as thet are, and let them be. What makes you think you know better than they do? If thats the way they want to be, put tier desires ahead of your own. I know, im one of them.

In the end, you need to honour their wishes. It's their life and they deserve that. It's not easy though and it never feels good. 🥺

Don't ask them what they want to eat. They'll talk themselves out of everything with all the excuses.. I just make my mom something to eat and she eats it. Every single time.

Tough love

With patience.

Yes I can

It's a tricky task. Just like you have to manage kids.

1. Manipulate
2. Bribe
3. Threaten/ Punish
4. Hide

Chloroform

You mean someone likes living their own life and someone wants to take away their independence.

What do you expect when you take away someones freedom

It's hard so I wouldn't know

Watch Turner classic movies with them….

You gotta fight em on it.

You cant force people to be rational unfortunately

Dagnabit, you little whippersnapper, I'll show you some elderly! Now get me a bran muffin and some Metamucil and get off my lawn before I turn on the hose!

I suggest a visiting nurse.