I'm so anxious waiting to hear a call of my dad passing

As I understand it - our body starts shutting down processes here and there.

He will lose his appetite as his digestion stops. At some point they won't try to give him water because he won't swallow well and choking becomes a real threat. At that point they will try to keep his mouth moist with swabs or ice chips.

He'll sleep more and more and hopefully he'll just not wake up. If that happens it won't really matter to him how many people are in the room - so if you aren't there it will be more distressing to you than it will be him.

I won't lie, even though knowing he's not in pain any more - it's still going to be painful for you. And you can expect ups and downs. But some time from now you'll have more good days than bad.

If you have family they may be a source of comfort. If they have not be support in the past - they may not be now.

Lean on the people you already count on.

You're going to get through this.

Waiting is always the most difficult part.
You know it's coming, but you're still never ready for it. You don't want him to go, but you don't want him to suffer either.
You're on edge and you're nervous. That's only natural and normal.
After he passes, then a new set of things will push your anxiety. Decisions about wakes, flowers, and the rest of the funeral arrangements can push your nerves to the edge too. You find yourself having to make decisions that you are unsure of, but you have to trust yourself and the choices/decisions you make.
Someone once told me, "Funerals are not for the deceased, they are for the mourners."

It's not in our control. I really thought my dad was going to 100.

He was 98.5 and every visit to the nursing home as I left I thought, will he be here next week...But that weekend - he's in his wheelchair and I waved back and said I loved him...he smiled...seemed ok...actually better than usual.

Then that Tuesday - I received the call - I was told that he took his morning nap and didn't wake up....

Completely unexpected - how silly of me...

But you know, this is normal. This is how it goes, and it's natural...sad, but natural.

I'm so sorry, Coral, to hear what you are going through. While his passing is inevitable (we all die sometime), it's never easy.

As others have said, this is the time to turn to friends, whether real or virtual, for comfort and support. And that you have belief that, in all of this, you know he's going to a better place. I'd like to think you'll somehow find more strength than you thought you ever had.

As @Pretzel said, you're going to get through this.

I know it's hard because I went through exactly the same 17 months ago until I finally got that call, 7:20am so I knew straight away what it was, no one calls me at that time of day.
Try to put the dread to the back of your mind and instead, cherish ever moment that your dad is here, don't let that dread spoil your precious time with him 🤗

God I'm so sorry. I just came from visiting my wife's uncle and it's a very similar story

His time is almost here, try to be with him so hold his hand and kiss his forehead. They say hearing is the last sense to go, so tell him you love him. Be gentle with yourself. Maybe have a CBD gummy.

Bad news comes at bad times…middle of the night, or stuck in traffic. Just brace yourself. And I hope the person on the other end of the line is more patient than the one who called me.

I am so sorry..... 😟

Hugs

The Lord will call him when the time is ready. 🌹