I'm so anxious waiting to hear a call of my dad passing

He's in hospice, and has been in one week as of today. But he's dehydrated for sure, barely taking a few sips of water a day. Although he's been having two Jellos a day which is nice. It's very small for a normal person but I read peoples digestion in hospice shuts down. So they barely eat day to day, if not nothing.
But even though he had Jello today and talked for a few minutes before being so weak again and napping, I know he could pass any day. I'm trying to prepare my mind to not be panicked if the nursing home calls. But it's so hard. I have anxiety disorder and PTSD so I'm fearing how I'm going to feel or be. I'm not on meds, I can usually eventually calm myself in tense events, after a while. But no one this close to me has passed before. I'm just so on edge and helpless he could not have had treatment. 🙁 (Cancer too rapid)

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Pretzel · 70-79, M

As I understand it - our body starts shutting down processes here and there.

He will lose his appetite as his digestion stops. At some point they won't try to give him water because he won't swallow well and choking becomes a real threat. At that point they will try to keep his mouth moist with swabs or ice chips.

He'll sleep more and more and hopefully he'll just not wake up. If that happens it won't really matter to him how many people are in the room - so if you aren't there it will be more distressing to you than it will be him.

I won't lie, even though knowing he's not in pain any more - it's still going to be painful for you. And you can expect ups and downs. But some time from now you'll have more good days than bad.

If you have family they may be a source of comfort. If they have not be support in the past - they may not be now.

Lean on the people you already count on.

You're going to get through this.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Pretzel Thank you so much 🌟