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Go to beach alone or no?

I love the beach. If I could live there I would. I have not been in 7 years now due to a bad car, and then my sister got an awful pain disorder that led her bed bound eventually. She always came to the beach with me. I want to try to go alone (even though the highway I take is one of the dangerous in the U.S.)..but now she has neuropathy and can barely even walk. 🙁 I just feel so guilty if I thought about going for the day without her. I would definitely tear up when finally going in the water. While I think of her in awful pain at home. She doesn't deserve this. She is such a wonderful person. I want to go..but the guilt and sadness is high. Any thoughts?
Coralmist
41-45, F
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itsok · 31-35, F
I think you not going because she can’t go isn’t helping either of you.
Go, try to enjoy it. Take pictures and videos for your sister. Maybe even FaceTime her on the beach and bring her back some sand.

There are also beach wheelchairs that can be rented for the day that are able to get through sand and even into the water, so that may be something you can look into for the future.
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@itsok Ty friend. 🦋 I was thinking of a video but would still feel guilty for being there. I will look into possible wheelchair that is sand friendly or water. Thanks 🌻
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DragonFruit · 61-69, M
@Coralmist I knew someone who had a special wheelchair for the beach....I believe it was called a Roleez wheelchair.
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SageWanderer · 70-79, M
As much as you care for your sister there is also self care. Sometimes you have to leave feelings behind and do what is right for you.
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DragonFruit · 61-69, M
You need to take care of yourself as well as your sister....an occasional day doing something you enjoy will be good for you and help you recharge so that you can be in a better frame of mind when you go back to helping her (not every day is critical for you to be there with her.Someone else can help her for a day (as long as it isn’t a day that you absolutely need to be there, you shouldn’t feel guilty about it).
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@DragonFruit Thank you. I do occasional go to a store or two alone or walking..but the beach is a much longer trip and it was such a fun thing we did together. I feel she might feel so sad inside but not tell me. (If I went there myself). I just feel so badly because it is a wonderful place while she would be suffering 😟
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IM5688 · 61-69, M
I used to go the beach alone all the time. Just spending the time walking the beach alone, I found it a great place to think, reflect, cast away my troubles and even guilt. It was a release, a tension/stress reliever.
When I left the beach, my mind was more refreshed, more open and relaxed, yet more focused. Try it. With all you are dealing with and going through right now, it might be just what you need right now.
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Jimbo7 · M
Go ,enjoy the day WhatsApp her while your there turning round so she can see the seashore. Take her a couple of candy rocks back and a toffee apple 🍎
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JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Can a nurse, relative, or friend be with her?
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@JoyfulSilence Yes but I fear she would feel so sad she couldn't go. And I do too. It is tough to decide. 😟
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JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
@Coralmist

Maybe you could find a wheelchair accessible pier, boardwalk, or platform.

One place I go, I usually have to stick to the boardwalk or pier because the beach is not free. No matter, since the beach is small and crowded, and I do not want to swim. Not worth the price. The boardwalk and pier are free, and have plenty of benches. But they all have memorial plaques to commemorate somebody who passed away, so it makes me sad at times.
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Bowenw · 61-69, M
You should go and give yourself a mental break.
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Quimliqer · 70-79, M
Follow your heart!!
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Fukfacewillie · 51-55, M
Go to the beech, and say a dedication in her honor.
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NativePortlander1970 ·
Is her neuropathy from diabetes or is it spinal?
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@NativePortlander1970 Diabetes mainly😢
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