Go to beach alone or no?

I love the beach. If I could live there I would. I have not been in 7 years now due to a bad car, and then my sister got an awful pain disorder that led her bed bound eventually. She always came to the beach with me. I want to try to go alone (even though the highway I take is one of the dangerous in the U.S.)..but now she has neuropathy and can barely even walk. 🙁 I just feel so guilty if I thought about going for the day without her. I would definitely tear up when finally going in the water. While I think of her in awful pain at home. She doesn't deserve this. She is such a wonderful person. I want to go..but the guilt and sadness is high. Any thoughts?

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DragonFruit · 70-79, M

You need to take care of yourself as well as your sister....an occasional day doing something you enjoy will be good for you and help you recharge so that you can be in a better frame of mind when you go back to helping her (not every day is critical for you to be there with her.Someone else can help her for a day (as long as it isn’t a day that you absolutely need to be there, you shouldn’t feel guilty about it).

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@DragonFruit Thank you. I do occasional go to a store or two alone or walking..but the beach is a much longer trip and it was such a fun thing we did together. I feel she might feel so sad inside but not tell me. (If I went there myself). I just feel so badly because it is a wonderful place while she would be suffering 😟