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Have you been stood up on a date?

I was supposed to meet a guy for lunch and drinks but as the time of our meet was nearing he disappeared from the chat. I did not go to the place fortunately - since he stopped responding, I figured he wasn't going to show up.
What are your experiences?
exexec · 61-69, C
Never, but my wife and I started dating when we were 15 and there were very few other opportunities for anybody to stand me up.
Zachanr · 26-30, M
I've been stood up once. We talked heavily up to the hour leading to the meet. I got to the place, texted a few times and waited maybe 30minutes? Then i went home.

Never figured out why it happened but turned me off of dating for a little bit. I really hate the ghosting that is common now a days. I'd rather someone be blunt.
solitaire · 41-45, F
@Zachanr Yeah. I dont like the word date. I just call them "meet outs" 😆
@Zachanr so weird.. why would they do that
Zachanr · 26-30, M
@MaybeTomorrow No idea. We'd been talking for a while too which is annoying.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I’ve been stood up before. I think at the very least the person owes you to present themselves and say that they have to leave so you aren’t waiting for them.
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solitaire · 41-45, F
🤗. To console myself I've had a shot of whiskey - whiskey with warm water and honey and cinnamon powder 😆
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
@solitaire Wonderful! If you don’t treat yourself nobody else will!!
I've never been stood up. I did kind of stand one girl up. Head cheerleader. We worked together one summer at the local swimming pool. I was a lifeguard, she collected passes.
She was a year older than I, but our birthdays were on the same day in October. So I asked her out on 'our' birthday. She giggled in a shy, friendly way, but didn't answer. So I kept at it. I asked her again maybe 3 or 4 more times over the summer until she finally said yes.
Then I got to thinking that she probably just said it to get me off her back. So I never called her to make arrangements or persued it again.
🤷 Does that qualify as a "stand up"? I still feel a trifle bad to this day, 50 years later.
SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F
Only by friends, not by a potential dating partner.

Sarah 💋
DoubleRings · 51-55, F
Yeah in my 30s. Oddly enough it was by someone well known to me. He went out with his friends that night and was supposed to meet with me for a drink but I guess he was having too much fun or something. He was a potential dating partner but obv never got that far.
Frostcloud · F
ive been stood up by an ex freind

not on purpose but shed forget we made plans 😐 i stopped getting ready to hang out unless she texted me she was on the way
solitaire · 41-45, F
@Frostcloud Haha - to me if a friend forgets a plan then I personally feel I was not as important to them as I thought I was. This has happened to me
Frostcloud · F
@solitaire yeah, i didnt mind at first because she was going through a hard time, but after a few weeks it felt a little hurtful
Nick1 · 61-69, M
Yes it had happened few times with me. It’s part of life. Some people don’t care.
It’s always nice to let other person know if you can’t make it.
pdockal · 56-60, M
It's the internet so it's expected
solitaire · 41-45, F
@pdockal Hmm. Yeah but if they are from your city and they give you the impression that they are going to meet and then just disappear. Not cool :(
pdockal · 56-60, M
@solitaire

Never said it's cool but it's expected for people to get cold feet because they probably misrepresented themselves in some way & don't know how to handle that
solitaire · 41-45, F
@pdockal Hmmm
Pfuzylogic · M
Once at a good concert with Joe Walsh and Stevie Nicks. At least Joe was good! 1983
KnowOne · 46-50, M
People often develop cold feet at the last moment.
JestAJester · 31-35, M
Mostly ghosted. Stood up a few times, flat out ignored. Ive even had a few come back after ignoring me for weeks and act like everything was all fine and dandy. Also skipped over for another man. Im gettinf older and its getting harder and harder
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Shybutwilling2 · 61-69
No i never had that experience
2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M
Yes many years ago but got over it!
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
No but I have had numbers I'll pass out before not get called I think everybody has but it just tells me that they weren't the one I was looking for not a big deal. That's why from now on I do s*** the smart way if it doesn't come to me it wasn't meant to be and I just flipped the page
That sounds so frustrating. Glad you didn’t go to the place you were supposed to meet at. He sounds like a waste of time.
solitaire · 41-45, F
@MaybeTomorrow Now I can confirm I got stood up. Late night he messages me and tells me he got held up with work. When I told him he could have informed me that he cannot me, he says his battery was only 12% 🙄 and that's the reason he did not inform
@solitaire 12 percent is still a lot. A message to you wouldn’t have cost him those 12 percent 🙁
solitaire · 41-45, F
Waldorf · 80-89, M
Maybe he correctly figured that you wouldn't show up. Maybe he arrived and waited. Maybe this isn't one of such experiences. Maybe.....
solitaire · 41-45, F
@Waldorf Late night he messaged me and informs me he got stuck with work. He could have informed me that he could not meet me: So if I had gone to the place I would have been waiting there like a fool.
Waldorf · 80-89, M
@solitaire Glad you know how justified you were not to have turned up. I hope this doesn't happen to you again. And that it's not a habit of his. If so, he needs to shake it off and spare whoever.
Maybe you stood him up, he wasn't responding because he was traveling to the meetup with you?
solitaire · 41-45, F
@Motzu I don't stand people up. If I am not interested in meeting I tell them upfront. He still has not checked his messages. I have met quite a few people in person and I know I've been stood up today.
Ideation · 100+
If you think getting stood up is bad imagine getting sent to a random house after sunset by a catfish
solitaire · 41-45, F
@Ideation Ooops
PriyaB · 26-30New
Why do you want to meet people? Just take care your husband and kids out for dinner
solitaire · 41-45, F
@PriyaB I'm not married 🙄. Thanks for the "unsolicited advise"
PriyaB · 26-30New
@solitaire Uff! Sorry. Get a nice handsome man and go for dinner date.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
Are you sure he stood you up or maybe his phone died?
solitaire · 41-45, F
@Jenny1234 Na I'm sure he stood me up
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
Luckily not in my case, but I will be getting back on dating apps soon.

 
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