Men.. when you think about dating a woman...

10 years ago i was thinking about physical, as I get older I am thinking more about beeing friend, develop a strong bond, i thing great intimacy will come from that bond

I don`t think about that because the wife won`t let me. ☺️

If the sex isn’t great then their isn’t any point in considering a long term relationship

Depends on the initial interactions as to how the subsequent stages go. But there must be some attraction - either in personality (bright smile, chatty, laughs at jokes, etc) or in appearance/looks. And the progressive stages build upon others after that.
Personality or appearance must be there to get me to engage at all. Then personality and appearance must both be there to continue to engage (ask for her # or on date). Then intelligence must be enough to add to personality and appearance to get a second date/interaction. If she can't hold up a convo, i won't waste time engaging with her after that.
More and more things must begin to match up, in order to keep the relationship active.
There isn't any set order, just as they come up in the relationship, based on interactions. But any time something doesn't "fit" an expectation you must evaluate its importance on the greater scale....is it a deal breaker, or not?!

I am a woman so I shall answer as one. I don't like when people direct questions to a specific gender either. It would be best to start out as a friend and to develop a bond as compared to physical intimacy first. Relationships are complex and sex isn't the best way to start, in my opinion. Does sex constitute trust, honesty, respect, etc? I doubt when sex is first and foremost.

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I dont date a woman til I've bonded with her as a friend and shared interests

Bear in mind I’m married. So this is in a scenario where my wife has left me or died. I am incredibly shallow. If I think about dating then I’m thinking about all the things I want to do to/with someone. I love caring people and funny people but I’d much rather be with someone who wants pleasure. I think if I wanted a companion I’d get a dog.

I prefer to get to know them first. I want to understand them. Get to understand the nice and worse parts of them.

Physical intimacy is important but I don't think it's everything in a relationship.

I am a visual and physical guy so I think of physical intimacy first. But to get there we must become friends and develop a bond together being social and doing things together. That will make the nookie so much better and meaningful.

I've given up trying because it's such a bullshit concept. I'm getting myself used to being single for the rest of my life.

I have had too many close friends to go totally that route anymore. It is a give and take situation. All give and no receive also isn't a good situation either. Had done that as well.

I dont speak for all males but i inperticular get tired if being filed into the friend zone

I have always approached being a friend and developing a bond first. I am also 39 years old and never been on a date.

My very first thought is 'Will she take it up the mudpipe'?

I never go into any situation deliberately searching. Things are best spontaneously

I focus more on being her friend first, then taking it from there

When your younger the hormones can get in the way 😊

A bond. Laughter, friendship.

Both. And they can enhance each other.

I so need a friend first.

The two tend to go hand-in-hand. I couldn't really have a close female friend without developing other feelings unless they were very much not my type..and even then!

I think this is why women like having gay friends.

To. Gotta love the friend zone. 😆 🤣

Depends on the mood

Well, yes, kinda.

Or rather, not dating at all. Just making a friend and if it happens to also go somewhere good then we cross that bridge when we get to it.

Ultimately both traits are important to me. Couldn't stay with someone even if we had great physical intimacy if there was no connection there. I also wouldn't want a relationship where we our personalities mesh well but the intimacy is just way, way off. For me having some degree of physical intimacy is part of the connection.

Now a days it's sex first fights next and break up

try to get to know them first