How do people end up hating their exes?

Same here with me. I'm on very good terms with (almost) all of them. We exchange mail, and I visit some of them from time to time. Always a nice excuse to visit cities like Paris or Berlin again.

🤔🤔🤔 Hmm. (2nd ex). Could be when he threatened to put a hit on me. Might be when he broke into our home during the divorce with a crowbar and stole most of the appliances that the court awarded to me...(couldn't even keep my son's milk cold without the fridge). Might be when he broke in to the house again and left gasoline cans in the living room and tampered with the fuse box.

Might be when he felt he had to rub his new girlfriend in my face...but most definitely when he insisted he had to have a weekend visit with my son right after he had facial surgery, and brought him home with his face hanging wide open and all the stitches gone.

Could be when he couldn't manage $70 a week for child support while working a great job, and ended up owing more than $10,000 in child support arrears.

Could be when he had one of his friends "visit" me where I worked, at the Homeless Shelter, with a power bow in hand, claiming to be lost and needing to use the phone.

Dunno

If someone either harms you or someone you love or repeatedly threatens to do so, it's not easy to like them again, let alone trust them. I'm not friends with my ex for this reason. I wouldn't trust him on my property or that of my family ever again.

Not everyone has the same experiences. Some people have had really bad experiences with their ex’s, some are not able to end on good terms if they other doesn’t want for whatever personal reasons they may have, and some maybe some hurt that they turn it into bitterness and anger. Most of mine we ended on good terms, and still speak occasionally, but I do have a couple where it didn’t end that great. 🤷‍♀️ These situations are never that black and white when dealing with different people and different situations. Sometimes you have to consider how that person treated you, and if you do still want them in your life as a friend.

Things happen. Not everyone lives the same life.

well, when she went after all my possessions, not married. even gave her the house paid off she didn't even want to let me have the RV.

Idk, I don’t hate anyone but they sure hate me 🥺.

Emotional baggage and symbolism that can be hard to move on from? It actually doesn't mean they love them any less than they once did. Personality clashes after years, as people changed, they never were able to reconcile? The possibilities are endless, I try to keep good relations with my exes, and I can promise you that doesn't always work.

My ex and I get along better now then when we were together.

I cannot understand it
they take it too personal lol

Depends on the circumstances of the breakup really. If there was abuse or infidelity involved, it's understandable.

I wouldn’t hate an ex. I don’t understand hate, even if they cheated. They may have made bad choices when we were together but that doesn’t make them a bad person. I wouldn’t have dated them if they were a bad person. I have an ex that is a total loser. We met 35 years ago and he’s never changed. But I accept that is the way he is. I don’t want to be his friend but I couldn’t hate him or anyone

Especially where you co-parent with someone, it’s so important to put your differences aside.

I dont hate my exes.ivealwas helped then when they needed it.

It's important for society as we know it. Women who think they won't be used and discarded are still doable. The rest are just gone. But men stick together as a society and women are not.

I can’t even remember who my ex was before I got married as silly as it seems. I could probably trip over them and not recognize them.

My last ex was something right out of Fatal Attraction. I don't need friends like that, unless I want to boil a bunny.

I got along with all my sexes for a while.. I would occasionally make a beneficial house call every now and again..
It's the new bf that dont let her even wave at me...

I had to kick some ass back then

My ex-wife lied, cheated, and stole from me.

I don't see how it matters whether you are or aren't.. Cool if you can be friends with them, and if not you all go and live your own lives without bothering each other again

It depends on the reason you broke up. Some people can’t remain friends after a certain situation.

My "exes" are erased from my mind. What they did to me and the lessons I learned is not. Maybe that's why I "unfairly" generalize many women. I've eliminated the individual.

I also believe that most people who are on good personal terms with an ex wish they were still with them.