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How do you react when someone hurts you badly?

I just have an overwhelming urge to hurt them back. It’s a terrible part of me and one that I try to fight every time but it doesn’t always work out.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
I walk away. I've had too much hurt in my life to put up with that. The trust is gone.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@SW-User It isn't easy though.
SW-User
@SweetMae true but I suppose like any behaviour it can be learned
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@SW-User It can.
helenS · 36-40, F
I will keep smiling, apologize, and go away. I will not be going to lose [u]my[/u] dignity just because someone else loses hers/his.
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@helenS that’s the upper ground right there ☝️
SW-User
I usually act as if I don't care.
And part of me becomes cold.

I've tried to treat them like they did to me, but I can't for long cause it's just not my nature..
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@SW-User self preservation
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@Degbeme lmao!! Funny as hell
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@Degbeme a good way to put it!
Pun intended🙂
I’d be gone from their lives. Life is too short to be reminded of the pain or to worry if you could trust them again.
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Not much of a fighter myself .. if anything . I let God fight my battles for me
Mrballs · 70-79, M
@SW-User ngl I wish I was more like this
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@Mrballs Same yeah
SW-User
Die a little.

Then torture them slowly.
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@SW-User ha! The whole revenge thing appalls me in fact..but I still want it. Can’t seem to get over that at all.
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@SW-User Sometimes the revenge is moving on as if they never existed.
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@SW-User I like it better!
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I have a sharp tongue or I bury them.
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My mouth is my downfall it just goes off on its own @Keepitsimple
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@SW-User Mine too. I’m not going to be quiet though if somebody hurts me, I’m not an idiot.
summersong · F
I’m a bridge burner so as much as I love retribution I usually just walk away and hope that they eventually come to regret what they’ve done. They’re dead to me though. I have enough trust issues without letting people take advantage of me and I have to look out for my own feelings
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Yeah I get it completely @summersong
Jammy · 51-55, M
@summersong i am the same
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@summersong Exactly
BlueVeins · 22-25
Usually, I treat them as kindly as possibly and do my best to retreat. I understand that this is a flaw.
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Sounds like you’re a saint to me!@BlueVeins
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@YukikoAmagi terrifying 😰
JesseInTX · 51-55, M
I’m out. I’m not risking it happening again. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me
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I become very quiet... and I walk away.
Sometimes, that hurt becomes anger, but I do not hurt anyone in return. The anger just stays with me like a constant reminder. I have learned to let it go since I really don't like feeling angry.
SW-User
@SW-User Let it go before it does. What does anyone gain by hanging onto it?
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@SW-User nothin. It’s just a habit I guess
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@SW-User habits can be changed and broken. Bad habits can be replaced with good ones.
Mrballs · 70-79, M
Take a shit in their front yard
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@Mrballs that too!
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@danser get it out and move on. Sounds like a solid method actually
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
Most of the time, I tend to walk away.

I never hurt a person back. However, when they won't learn the fact that I'm being nice by walking away then I'll show how pain can feel like.
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@Beatbox34 you’re a good person BB
Mrballs · 70-79, M
[quote]overwhelming urge to hurt them back. [/quote]this
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@Mrballs I always feel so proud of myself when I control it 😂
Mrballs · 70-79, M
@SW-User same 🤣
Mrballs · 70-79, M
@SW-User yeah it can ruined my whole day sometimes. I keep playing the situation in my head
Sepia · 36-40, F
Too bad I withdraw or just cut them off. Life is short to take them. Never carry heavy and unnecessary things in your journey.
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@Sepia sound advice
carpediem · 61-69, M
Purge your life of toxic people. Unless of course that person comes to you with genuine remorse and an apology.
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Lilymoon · F
At first it hurts me and I feel very sad.

Then I get angry... and they better stay away from me or face the wrath.

A block button in real life would be epic. 😁
Lilymoon · F
@SW-User See ya! Wouldn't wanna be ya! 🤭
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Lilymoon · F
@SW-User yeah... buh bye. 😝
TheCoolestCat · 31-35, M
break their windows lol
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God you guys aren’t helping me at all here!!@TheCoolestCat
When I was younger, I would plan delicious scenarios of revenge. Now, I have seen so much pain that I cannot do the same to another. But that doesn't mean that I'll allow that to happen again, if I can help it.
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@dragonfly46 keep it strong
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I grow cold, silent and curt when I have to talk to them. Unless I can distance myself, if I can I do it immediately and without explanation.
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Yeah. Like a hedgehog @CrazyMusicLover
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@SW-User Yes. If I lash out back I'm probably not that hurt, just riled up. When I get hurt badly I can't respond, I just shut off and try my best to crawl away with dignity without tears.
Nanori · F
Physically, nobody would cause they don't want me to start slapping them 50 times a day c:

Emotionally,uhhhhh wait lemme find my heart first c:
Elegy · 46-50
I don't like to hurt anyone.
Sometimes it get way from me though. 😒
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Yeah..emotions get the better of us I guess @Elegy
Elegy · 46-50
@SW-User Sometime.
Just hurt until it doesn’t hurt anymore. 😢
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@Watching aw poor puppy 🤗
Same. But it’s prolonged. 😡
Bang5luts · M
I would try to figure out why.. it's the wrong answer. It usually leads to a dead end with then blaming the other person. It's a difficult dead end to be at. Depending on the circumstances and how much forethought they put into this painful action, reciprocating might be the only relief if that type of thing helps you..😔
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It depends. I try to be mature thse days but I can't always help myself.

The last time someone did something really bad to me, I keyed his car and then kicked one of the mirrors off it a few days later.


It's always a better idea to just cut the person out of your life and walk away
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@SW-User less energy and time consuming as well
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@SW-User yeah. I’m not a violent person physically but my words and thoughts can be
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@SW-User too right. It's a waste of precious time on destructive emotions that dont even male you feel better

@SW-User its good that you aren't violent physically. That only makes things worse.

 
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